Not sure on a mum friend

[SpunkyMintZebra]

So basically I have a 3 month old, this is my second baby, my first was born in 2020 when lockdown had just started and so I’ve made the point this time to get out and do the baby things I couldn’t do before.
I’ve met a mum who asked for my number and wanted to meet up, we did, she’s nice but we just don’t have anything in common - at all.
She has a lot of anxiety so asks for advice a lot - which is fine, it isnt a problem as I know being a mum is hard - it’s just, knowing this, it makes me feel bad if I sort of cut off contact from her….
Do I just meet up with her and hang out and just deal that we don’t really actually get on? She asks me to meet, I never ask her. I’m just polite and say yes, say I’m busy when I don’t want too but I can’t say I’m busy every time going forward…
She lives in the same area as me also so could easily bump in to her out and about too.
I don’t know what to do? Just as I’m typing this she has messaged me asking to hang out!

Maybe give her more of a chance, you might find that you have more in common than you think.

I'd just say 'I have a lot on and I'll get in touch when things have settled down'. She should get the hint.

Can you arrange to meet at the mum and baby group so that it doesn’t feel so intense? Plus, you may both find other mums that you click with.

Good idea.

I'll only add that even if you do this, she may try again. If so, just say a version of the same thing. "I have so much on my plate right now that I couldn't possibly, but thanks so much for getting in touch."

Do this!

This I could do, although I met her a baby walk thing and she spent the whole time talking to me and I didn’t have a chance to talk to anyone else which annoyed me a little! She sort of ‘leached’ on to me more than any other mum and took my number only - I’m not sure why lol I don’t know if it would be the same again, I want to meet other mums and have chances to talk to others so I worry I won’t be able too but I’ll try it:

I think I might just be being a bit silly - she really is lovely, we’re just completely different people and I just don’t enjoy meeting her as it’s not fun or a laugh I guess

If you feel like she's "leached" onto you I think you need to find a way of putting a stop to the meet ups etc , for both your sakes really. No point dragging it out

I like the baby group idea - get there early and then hopefully you can get chatting to someone else before she comes! Then you can smile and invite her over to join you but you’ll be a three/group chatting rather than one on one!