To object to being paid like this

[carparker]

I need a sense check really, I'm so annoyed and I'm not sure why. I'm a cleaner, work in people's homes, they usually pay me cash. Most leave it out for me and I take it when I'm done,

This one client though, I have to find him and ask for the money every time, I say ok I'm finished, he says oh are you, then I say yes can I have my money please, then he gets out his wallet and takes it out note by note, so one fiver, holds it out till I take it, rinse and repeat. Always £5 or £10 short so he says oh I'll transfer the rest. 24 hours later I text to ask, he pays a few hours after.

It's driving me nuts, how hard is it to just have £30 ready? Why does he do it? I need the work so i don't want to complain but I'm living on my nerves waiting for the last £5 or whatever, and the note by note thing is just weird. Should I say something or am I being a princess?

Good that you have decided to bin him. Good for your confidence and self-esteem! It is rude to treat people like that.

I don't have a cleaner but I have a window cleaner and I make a point to pay him immediately. He's busy, he doesn't need to waste time chasing me for payment.

That's so creepy.
You could suggest it might be easier if he left the cash out so you don't have to bother him?
Or monthly transfer?

YANBU

It’s perfectly reasonable for you to ask him to have cash ready in full next time

YANBU I would find another client and drop him.

This. But not before I said to him "I notice you keep paying me late. Can I ask if you're struggling financially?" That'll knock him right off his perch 😂

Update tomorrow re how he took you saying you were quitting

Don’t go back !
im sure you will find another client - and the payment envs sound a good idea 👍

Keep him as a client and tell him you'd like him to pay you by standing order from now on as you have another appointment to get to after his clean. Then his money will chip away at your overdraught. The counting out cash and always being short would piss me off too

Astonishingly rude, to make you ask and wait, to pay it slowly like that, and to be short of some of it. I'd be tempted to turn my back on him and say, 'can you leave it there please' indicating a table or something, while I go off to collect my things.

Ok I said I wouldn't be there next week as I was away, and said I was changing to bank transfer from 1st June and price going up to 35, cost of living and all that. He just said ok, so I'll see if that works. I don't actually mind cleaning his house, it's pretty empty and never dirty and the location is near another client so I think I'll give him another chance. I'll text him before and if he doesn't want me I'll find someone else.

Fingers crossed it works out ok for you OP. Well done for doing that though

Get out of his house as soon as you can and stay as far away as possible.

His behaviour is controlling and disturbing.

Are you not picking up on the way he is trying to manipulate and belittle you?

He has no respect for you. He's treating you like an insect. You know psychopaths pick the legs off insects.

You are not safe. Do not work there. Get out while you still can.

Do not give out any personal information.

Write down all the information you know about him and how he has behaved. Give a copy to a family member and keep a copy. You know, just in case you end up dead.

His behaviour is not normal and you do not know what he is watching online.

He’s not worth the stress, I agree with all other comments here, you don’t need him. I am sure you could find a new client who will treat you with the respect you deserve.

how awful. Total disrespect for your profession. He wouldn’t get away with that where I live - good cleaners are like gold dust and we pay our cleaner well with money at the ready whenever she arrives. I’m actually a bit scared of my cleaner as she tells me off for little things (lighthearted, but seriously I’m a little 😬😬)

Why are people such arseholes?

I’d replace him if I could. What. Twat

I think you should burn his house down. Quite frankly, tell me where he lives and I will do it for you. (I won't really, but he is a cunt)

Blimey!

This client is more trouble than they’re worth. Dump and don’t look back.

I've had a cleaner for the last ten years.

I transfer the money across the night before. The one time she was ill and couldn't make it she sent the money back!

She's a gem.

Just be more directive:
All my other clients leave the cash on the side, ready for me to take when I've finished cleaning. I'd like you to start doing the same.

If he protests:
I am a good cleaner. I am not going to leave early. I always do a proper job. But I don't appreciate having to ask for the money I've earned each week multiple times. It's not fair.

If you pay her before she even arrives to clean, you are demonstrating your trust in her. She probably thinks you are a gem too! That is great relationship to have with your cleaner.

good lord - Stephen King is in da house

What wine are you drinking? I'll be sure to avoid it! 😂

I worked in a little village shop during covid, and there was one customer used to pay for his milk one 20p coin at a time, he insisted I hold my hand out and he'd place the coins one at ta time slowly. He'd even do this with a full queue of customers waiting behind him. After the 3rd time I refused to put my hand out and asked him to place the money on the counter, he simply dropped the milk on the floor and left. Very very creepy behaviour, made me feel completely on edge and I suspect thats exactly why he did it.

I feel your pain, I'm a cleaner and have had several clients who say they are about to pay as I'm leaving but then I have to wait a few hours which is really annoying as I tend to go shopping on the way home from cleaning jobs. No advice except ditch them