Wondering what sort of evidence I need to deny parental alienation

[User145690mlt]

I separated from husband 8 months ago, agreed a 50/50 childcare plan. He is emotionally abusive and is controlling. Daughter has witnessed some things in the last few months and has decided she doesn't want to see him on her own. At the moment I am facilitating their contact and contact with his family members.
He obviously isn't happy and is gearing up to go to court to accuse me of parental alienation.
What sort of evidence will I need to prove this isn't what's happening and she has come to this conclusion on her own.

How old is DD?

Sorry DD is 10

A private psychologic report or social work one. They'll interview/chat with your dd and decide if her wish is because of you. Its shit op. I'm sorry.

@User145690mlt this is a comprehensive site to have read through

https://www.kabirfamilylaw.co.uk/parental-alienation-syndrome/

she has witnessed this towards you? has it been directed towards her?

She has seen aggression from him, not directed towards her but she says it scared her. He has given her silent treatment in the past. He has also forced her to have contact in the past even when she has been hysterical. I think she doesn't trust him ultimately.

why on earth did you agree a 50/50 childcare plan with him a few months ago?

Is he actually going to go to court and accuse you of alienation or does he like making threats OP?

I have a situation where dd's dad is trying to get her full time so I pay him maintenance (she barely knows him). I've got a call with Cafcas the month before where I will explain how little he has seen her and how she feels and my friend who works with fostered children has said she thinks my dd will be able to write a letter to the Judge to explain her position. Dd will be 13 at the time and this is considered to hold sway. I thought I'd suggest it as an idea, if others think it would work with a younger dd, as she is scared of him?

I have been to family court several time, and my ex, in a similar fashion, couldn’t accept his shitty behaviour had alienated the kids and so began two years of screaming “parental alienation”

You just need to be whiter than white. Likely that Cafcass would get involved, so you say the right things, what your child has seen and what you have done to encourage her to go.

They will likely talk to her, so your daughter needs to be clear in her own head what she wants. They spoke to my children, and personally I think the Cafcass officer clutched at anything to get the generic Cafcass access.

Point is, they can yell it all they want, but your child is old enough to vocalise her thoughts and reasons.

I don’t know that he will get far if he already has 50/50 so it sounds like empty threats anyway. Personally I’d be looking at the whole 50/50 set up anyway!!

Every time it's 'his day' I arrange for them to see each other. I always have to be there but I have evidence of all of that. I have evidence and text messages that show I have tried to encourage her and support their relationship. My DS still does the 50/50 with his Dad so I'm not sure how I can be accused of alienating one child.

We saw him today and DD told him she didn't want him picking her up from school and it worried her (he has previously taken her from school early without her or my knowledge). He said to her "well if Mum was in a car crash then I would have to come and pick you up". She cried all the way home in the car.

Anyone know if I can be accused of this if I am going to take DD to see him and his family?
He is saying I am restricting access.

how did you proceed OP?

What happened op?

@Unexpectedlysinglemum Wow good morning! This was so long ago!

We are actually in court this week for a dispute resolution hearing. We have been through a section 7 which has recommended she has phone contact with him twice a week and on special occasions if I am willing to be there. Other than that they have said it wont be good for her to force contact. The report actually states that they see absolutely no evidence of parental alienation. I provided cafcass messages and a list of times I had facilitates contact.

None of it has stopped him and I still get messages to say she wants to see him and it's all my fault. Only last week he sent a 9 page statement to the court full of blatant lies about me! I'm trying to focus on how he can't really fight the recommendations so hopefully it will be over soon.

The Court see this stuff day in day out, they’ll see through the lies and do what Cafcass recommends.