How do I handle DD friends mum

[Onedayatatime8]

Hi all

how would you handle dealing with the parent of a teen who wants to be friends and trvel
somewhere together but in all
honesty I need to protect my DD from this teens manipulative behaviour (lying about my dd constantly trying to get her in trouble and to fall out with her friends) .
i don’t want to fall out with them so do I a) be honest and say my dd doesn’t want to get caught up in said behaviour (which the mum doesn’t acknowledge)
or
b) just lie and say we are going a different way en route or something

B

You just need to ask yourself ‘do I want to do this?’ If the answer is no, then do what you need to do.

Stay somewhere the night before, say you’ve committed to giving x a lift before and can’t car share - say anything!!

B and keep avoiding them. Or don't lie and just say we have our own plans (which you do) and give no further explanation.

B, but don't outright lie. Just say you can't, and do something trivial en route if it makes you feel better.

I'd do a, because the issue is going to fine up again otherwise.

Thank you all
I really want to do A as I want to get it off my chest but I think I’m gonna go with B because it could flare the situation up more