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Has Mumsnet ruined me for dating?

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BlockBrigade · 18/05/2024 19:26

I matched with someone on Tinder (we’re both women), we got along great and decided to Videochat. We had a nice chat which went very well, and we arranged to do it again a few night’s later.

In the meantime, we casually text back and forth.
At one point she calls me “Chris”, which is not my name! When I respond with a simple question mark “?”, she says it was an autocorrect error.
I move on and don’t think anymore about it.

We had arranged the time for last night, I got a text to say she was running 30 minutes late, fine not a big deal.
30mins comes and goes… I send her a text and ask if she’s on her way?
She texts back an hour later saying it’s late, she’s very tired, and she’s going to sleep!

I responded by telling her she could have told me that an hour ago, at which point I could have happily slept myself!

She texted me 7am this morning to say it was a misunderstanding and she thought I needed more time and she had been waiting for me - Whaaat!?

I wished her well in life, then blocked and deleted her number before she had anymore time to come up with goodness knows what!

Thank you Mumsnet! Years of hanging about this place has made me no nonsense with zero tolerance for tomfoolery!

(A real pity, I was attracted to her and it seemed mutual, and we seemed on the face of it very compatible and it seemed promising)

Has Mumsnet made you ruthless also?

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May2024 · 18/05/2024 19:28

That's not ruthless!!! That's being sensible!

She was a waste of time and space.

Well done!

Amx · 18/05/2024 19:29

What a flake. That's not mumsnet that your common sense.

Reugny · 18/05/2024 19:30

You do know why she's single?

Well she has shown you.

There are people on OLD who don't raised red flags.

FOJN · 18/05/2024 19:31

Well done. Life is far too short to give flaky people the benefit of the doubt.

BlockBrigade · 18/05/2024 19:32

I think in the past I may have given her a second chance if she had gone on to apologise and tried not to be too judgey or harsh, people can have a bad night sometimes, who knows what’s going on in their lives.

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BlockBrigade · 18/05/2024 19:48

Thought it odd that she would arrange a time, keeping pushing it back, and then go MIA, makes no sense.

What I think now is she must have double booked herself with “Chris” that evening, she sent me a picture of her cocktail out of the blue and asked me what I was drinking (I wasn’t drinking anything and was on my way home), and was possibly carried away chatting, casually just ignored that she had me waiting and neglecting to mention it!

Far too many red flags in too short a time! What a mess!

Apparently she’s a respectable business owner and is in her early 50’s, I did stuff like that when I was 14 maybe and grew out of it sharpish. Where’s the respect.

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Owl9to5 · 18/05/2024 19:52

yeh that sounds ridiculous. EVen before mumsnet i'd have been v annoyed to be messed around like that.

WmFnKdSg1234 · 18/05/2024 22:17

Mumsnet has spoiled you for time wasters, flaky, fake, disrespectful chancers. 😀

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