Relentless posting by SIL on family WhatsApp

[ohthejoys21]

SIL has a grandson who I've only met a couple of times. Lovely boy and she's very involved in his life. She posts several pics/videos of him a day on family WhatsApp and I've been told she's upset I don't respond more regularly. It's literally pinging all day and if I've got a second I'll send a heart emoji or something but it's relentless. There's another baby in the family and if anything is ever posted about the baby, it's followed immediately by hers.

I don't know what she wants? I'd love to say to her yes he's gorgeous (that I've said) but no one's going to feel the same as you! Don't want to come off the group but it's driving dh mad too. I'm not a grandma yet but when I am I I'll be sharing photos with people who know him and love him and that's it!

Ignore. Whoever told you she's upset is shit stirring for a start and secondly, who cares? Just keep on as you are and if she's upset, that's a her problem.

Mute the chat.

Just mute the group

My mum used to think her friends were obsessive about their grandchildren and she used to roll her eyes about them sharing so many photos and stories. Then I had DD and she said she got it completely and immediately became the worst grand baby bore the world has ever known. She’s had 3 more since and it’s escalated each time.

She doesn’t have any siblings and the only family WhatsApp group she’s on is ours but I imagine she spams her mates constantly.

You don’t have to reply to SIL’s message spam, she can share what she likes but isn’t entitled to a response. If everyone ignores it maybe she’ll dial it down a bit.

Agree with PP's. Mute the chat. Turn online status off also if not already done so. Set a time to check the group chat once or twice a week - whatever works for you, and send a nice reply once a week at the same time. If anyone queries it, tell them you're reducing screen time and using your phone a lot less as you're focussing on other life stuff and don't want to be glued to a phone.

If it were me, this is what I would do!

If you can’t leave the group just mute it. You don’t have to respond, so what if she’s upset? You can’t go through your life bending over backwards to try and please people! It’s absolutely fine to ignore 90% of her posts!

My MIL did this with DN - mine were the same age and she never posted ‘proud’ moments of them.

Thank you. Don't know why I didn't think of that! Honestly it's pinging at all hours

If and when I'm blessed with grandchildren I'd like to think I wouldn't be as short sighted as your mil !

Mute it
At a convenient time, just scroll down and heart the pics - takes all of 5 minutes
Not a hill I'd choose to die on

Is it "several" or "literally pinging all day long" Can't be both.....

My family chat, 2 retired parents and part time working sister is very active all day, I'm working so I mute. My dm texts me after 5 when she knows I'm home, they're not at all offended because they know I'm busy...

This is your SILs issue, not yours, mute and only respond when you want to

Yeah just mute it and check in every so often with “wow, what a gorgeous baby, looks like he’s had an exciting week” or something similar.

I think this too