To be annoyed at friend for ‘fat’ comment?

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Currently in my 3rd trimester of my first pregnancy. I’ve had a pretty tough time due to many complications and as a result I’m a bit emotionally fragile. Hence my AIBU.

It’s lovely hot weather here at the moment and my supposed best friend text me saying ‘how are you enjoying the weather, fatty?’. I of course know I’m not fat but I found it very offensive and upsetting. I replied ‘oh, that’s rude’ but wish I hadn’t replied at all!

This friend had a child a few years ago and was incredibly self conscious and insecure regarding her body image and weight gain so I was shocked she’d make a comment like this, even in jest.

AIBU to be upset by this?

Sounds like she’s shit at reading the room. Were you tempted to respond with ‘not too bad, it’s no fun carrying extra baggage in this heat, is it?!’

After your update- she either doesn't take on board when you don't find a certain joke very funny, or is doing in on purpose. YANBU.

Not sure I would be, she sounds quite catty tbh.

Did she respond OP?

Sounds like she has a lot of deep seated insecurities herself and makes herself feel better by bringing others down. Doesn't sound like much of a friend!

Jokes like this are fine if you're both close enough and know that you share this sense of humour, but it sounds like you've been friends for a while and she should know you don't find it funny. It sounds like a very purposeful attempt to put you down.

first World problems eh🤦‍♂️