Aibu to hate having house guests?

[fatandhappyxxx]

We are moving to a beautiful part of Wales away from where we have always lived for a new life. I'm not sure if it's normal to feel dread (literally) when ppl here say they'll come to stay. They'll come for a holiday. These are not close friends : rather circumstantial friends mainly at work who I've never even been out with socially living in the same place.
We have small children and quite frankly are looking forward to starting over and making whole new friendships and lives.
Should I just block the ppl I don't want to keep in touch with to stop them descending on us without warning? This feels very unkind. I've never liked having house guests unless it's super close friends or family. I guess this makes me weird? Anyone else terribly unsociable like me?

YANBU. I find it very stressful. These people sound like CFs!

If they ask to stay say you don’t have guests to stay but if they stay in a local b&b, you’re happy to meet for a drink or a meal.

Yabu for accepting houseguests you don't want to have. If they ask again just say 'it's great you'll be in the area. Sorry we're not in a position to put you up but let's meet for a coofeee or walk when you're there.'

They probably think you're friends otherwise they wouldn't invite themselves.

Also, if actual friends do this but you don't have it in you to cater for people you can lay some ground rules eg how many nights, if they can do dinner one night, if you want them to do their own supermarket shop en route etc

If you set out clear boundaries from the start ( number of nights stay, who is catering, housekeeping logistics)......and stick to them, your sanity may survive.

They may never contact you again . But if they do a breezy sorry we can't put you up. There's a great bnb ..... bla bla. Love to meet up for a coffee if you have time...

I wouldn’t block, but a “we can’t accommodate house guests we don’t have the room. Let me know when you’re coming to the area so we can meet up”. Is fine.

I’ve moved around a lot, live on the coast, however much people promise to come and stay, they very rarely actually can be bothered to make the effort.

“They’ll come for a holiday”

Only if you let them. The boundaries that should be in place are that NOBODY stays in your house unless you and your DH want them to. While you might be guilted into having family to stay, no way should that happen for so-called friends, and much less for work acquaintances. Also, unless you give people your address, they won’t know where you are anyway - “We’re moving to Wales” is not likely to result in people turning up on your doorstep. Don’t block these people: just allow the relationship to dwindle, as it will once you move away. You are not obliged to reply if someone messages you!

Don't block them, just explain that you'll be getting a lot of visits from family and close friends (trust me, you will, especially in the first year) and that you can only manage a certain number of weekends a year. And/or that you don't have space for visitors. Hope it all goes well for you.