Would you contact the other mum?

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Ds said something really unpleasant to his best friend in school this week and the teacher took me aside to speak to me after the class yesterday. They have also spoken to his best friend's mum. We are meant to be seeing them tomorrow at their swimming lesson but am not sure whether I should mention it and apologize or just leave it. Any thoughts?

It would probably be awkward if you don’t mention anything. A brief conversation to let her know you are aware and take it seriously would probably be appropriate.

What did he say and why? Is it completely out of character? How old are the children? Have you spoken to him seriously about what happened?

I mean, you don’t need to tell us on here, but I’d be more concerned with my child doing something out of character than with the other parent.

Definitely say it, in a ‘I don’t know if you know’ kind of way or they’ll think you think it was acceptable

I'd send the other parent a text message beforehand saying you are aware of his behaviour towards their son, an apology and assurance he has had appropriate consequence given.

I'd mention it, otherwise it could be the elephant in the room. But I'd also think about what you've done to deal with it so that you can go to her and say look, the school made me aware that x happened between our boys. I want you to know that I've taken it seriously and I've talked to ds and done about it. If anything happens in future please feel like you can come to me if you're worried. I'm hopeful we can resolve this and they can move forwards in a better way.

That way you're letting her know you took it seriously, that you addressed it and what your actions were and that you're a safe and respectful parent to deal with if there's problems in future. I think it takes away any room for tension or gossip or misinterpretation which is important.

I would definitely say something to Dd’s best friends mum, apologise and let her know Dd has been told off/had consequences.

Thank you for the suggestions. I can't say what was mentioned as it is quite specific so if anyone from the school or his friend are on here, it is quite identifiable. According to DS, his best mate hit him and he verbally responded.

I did mention it to the mum when I saw her at pick up. She said it's fine and he hadn't got to the bottom of it all yet. DS and his friend seemed fine today.