Would this have made me look weak?

[Dont1981]

I know I'm overthinking this but..
It was during a date, and we were talking about uni days. Can't remember the exact context but I was saying that people who were always doing X at uni when they were drunk would get on my nerves.

He said 'You've just described exactly how I was at uni."

I laughed and said 'oops sorry'

And he said 'no you don't need to apologise '

Anyway he didn't want a second date, wondering if this put him off?

I was only saying it in a jokey way but I know saying sorry makes people look weak, doesn't it?

Weak? You voiced your own opinion that's the complete opposite

I don't think someone would put off a second date over that at all.

You have to be yourself and why would you want to be someone you aren't.. He wouldn't be the right guy for you in that case.

BTW I've never done it or would want to either

Oh you meant saying sorry . No it's not weak as I'm sure most of us would of said it as a. No offense response.

Don't overthink yourself, I know that can be hard as I was the same. Just be yourself,😊

Saying sorry isn’t a sign of weakness. Someone that acknowledges what they done or said was off and caused offence or harm. Some people can’t ever say sorry or won’t ever as they can’t admit when they are wrong or when they’ve hurt someone else. I’d be more concerned about someone that can’t say sorry than someone that can!!

You definitely put your foot in your mouth a lot though

So you basically came across as stuck up.

Not at all, I think he probably didn't feel a spark. If you did it's normal to feel disappointed but ruminating on everything you said is not going to get you anywhere.

He's only one guy, you don't know him, you don't know anything about him or what his current situation is. There are infinite potential reasons why he didn't want a second date and the likelihood it was because he thought you were weak for apologising is so tiny it's negligible. And if that was the reason well what are you going to do; change your personality and not say sorry for accidentally offending a person?

The best advice I can give you about early days dating is; show up, don't take it too seriously, have some fun and forget about it. If another date gets arranged rinse and repeat. If another date doesn't get arranged don't waste any time wondering about it, just get on with your own life.

If he was really keen on you neither of those things would have caused a problem. We've all encountered guys who seemed deaf to awful or ridiculous things we said because they had the hots for us.

I once came out with something dreadful. I was in the car with a fairly new guy who I was pretty into. We were driving to his place and on the way drove through an area I and lived in briefly when I was younger. I always hated this area and had bad associations with it. I turned and remarked what an awful dump this area was even though it's relatively expensive. He looked at me quizzically and then pulled up outside a house. I frantically asked why were stopping here when he lived in a completely different part of the city and he responded that this was his parents' home where he grew up and he needed to pick something up. I wanted the ground to swallow me up. I later tried to explain, he seemed slightly bemused but forgot about it.