Hey all
We got a new work colleague about 6/7 weeks ago now. The first day I met her, she seemed like one of those energy draining people and I didn't get the best impression. She seemed nice enough though, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt.
People seem to gravitate towards me because I am quite friendly and chatty and empathetic.
Anyhow, her second day of working she confides to me she has a long term illness she hasn't disclosed but wanted somebody to know. Fair enough.
She's struggling with her work and uses me to vent to. Its every day now and everything is so negative.
Yesterday, I arrived to office and it was me, her, another employee and our boss. Before I arrived she had got told off by the boss for not being in office 2x a week and she had cried and told him it was her illness etc. As soon as I was in, before I even knew about this she rushes up to me saying "I need to talk to you" whilst the boss is rolling his eyes.
Later that day, boss has her in a room so they can go through her project for about an hour. She leaves the room again in tears, boss storms out the office and she continues to tell.me she feels overwhelmed and he is expecting too much from her.
I get on with everyone in my office, including my boss. He can be quite direct and isnt a "people person" but I am.quote adaptable with others so it hasn't been an issue. She has said he always seems to be in a bad mood but I cant agree as he has been absolutely fine with me.
AIBU to keep my distance?
I dont mean not speak to her again, but to try and reduce time spent chatting to her?
She isnt making a good impression, she drains my energy with the drama and I dont want "work gossip" that I am a part of any of it.
I have good working relationships now with all my colleagues and I dont want it to suffer.