To feel guilty if I don’t take DD out this weekend as planned?

[Greys1995]

I’m a single parent to an 8 year old DD, who has moderate autism.

We had plans to go to the local funfair this weekend (that she knows about) but because of her behaviour the last few days, I honestly don’t even want to take her now.

It’s mainly screaming, shouting and kicking off over every little thing, but I’ve just absolutely had enough. I feel guilty in one way because the behaviour must be frustrating for her too, you can see how frustrated she is with herself and I don’t want her to miss out on something that she would enjoy over something she can’t 100% control, but equally it’s just drained me so much that I don’t want to deal with that behaviour in public right now. It doesn’t help that she’s become very demanding recently and I know that if we go and I say no to something at the funfair, she will throw herself on the floor screaming and shouting - and again, I just can’t deal with it.

Any advice on what I should do?

Take her out - you made the promise. More damaging not to. Sit and explain why you're doing it - make it really logical.

Autism is so different for each child, believe me - your child doesn't like acting that way but things are just so difficult sometimes for children with autism.

Take her. Worst case she kicks off and it's miserable. Console yourslef later

Don't take her. Both of you are miserable, you feel guilty she feels punished.

Take her.

Giving her the opportunity to make amends ime works wonders.. She's 8. By the weekend she will have forgotten her bad behaviour but won't forget you broke your word for a good while... Help her tidy her room /do some chores together.. 'Earning' a trip out will be well received for both of you... Remember her 'bad' behaviour isn't always a choice...
Ds 15 has ASD. Nightmare at times.