To ask what’s the best decision you’ve ever made?

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Some positive thoughts! It’s easy for us to think about what we’ve done wrong or could have done differently. But we’ve made some great decisions in our lives too! What are they? x

Learning to drive at 33, passing my test at 34 with 2 small children, not easy but totally worth it.

Leaving my job to work part time for more money in something that gives me loads of flexibility, buying our ‘doer upper’ with a big south facing garden even though it needed a complete overhaul. Main one though was a last minute change of degree course on induction day which saved me an extra year of study and £10,000 in fees - complete game changer!

Fostering. It changed my life for the better.

Can you share what your new job is please?

To decide I was in love with (my now) DH, on the tube one day, in 1992, looking at the distorted image of myself in the reflection.
30 years later, still the best decision of my life.
I got very lucky.

To change jobs after 28 years , I worked in a toxic small office but the hours and money were good and I thought I wouldn't find anything else , I'm a GP receptionist now within a great team and I absolutely love it .

Not marrying my first fiancé.
Marrying DH.

Paying thousands to self fund a qualification that wasn't linked to my job at the time. I met one of my best friends and it got me out of a really terrible job. I don't work in that field, but it boosts my otherwise sparse credentials (dropped out of A Levels).

Quitting a toxic job with nothing to go to.

Saying yes to a night out where I met my husband.

Making the conscious decision to read at length to my child daily. I did it for their development, but it's given us such a lovely period of time together daily and will probably provide memories that last their whole lifetime.

taking the first step to live overseas and staying for 25 years.

Becoming vegetarian 37 years ago, by far the kindest thing I could do for myself, the animals and the planet.

Getting on the housing ladder when and where I did. It's the best decision I've ever made

Wow. In this day and age!
Are you a devout Christian? Was your DH ok with this?

Staying child free.
Giving up alcohol.
Not giving up on my now husband (of 20 years).

Divorcing

Buying a crappy little flat as young as we could (25 years old), having saved our deposit. All of our friends were travelling and having fun instead and I was pretty envious!
That was 2010 in a city that became very trendy, and the amount of money we made from that flat and our next house (a 2 bed terraced house) has set us up for life. We're 40 now and feel the benefit of that decision every day.

Every bloke I ever dumped

Definitely travelling with work. Priceless memories.

Going after the man I wanted

Saying yes when my husband proposed. We met quite young and people warned me off him, but I saw the man he really was inside. He's my Rhysand [if you know, you know] he's even got the black hair and tattoos 😆

Leaving California. So much happier in Florida. Better off too.

Having my baby at 19 when everyone around me was trying to coerce me into an abortion (baby’s dad and my mother, mainly).

My baby is now 21 and I adore them more than I could ever put into words.

Ooh I forgot this one. Yes that's up there for me too 😊

Making the decision to move to my DHs home town post lockdown. We had been living somewhere that was essentially just convenient for work but with the changes to work and me getting new role it suddenly didn’t make sense for us to live there anymore.

We decided to buy my in laws and BIL out of his grandfather’s old house and have been living there ever since. There’s not much going on here but we have a nice life. Most importantly we are in the place with all our people (my parents moved to the next town over shortly after) and I have never felt such a sense of community and belonging.

LingTB

Getting divorced 10 years ago was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself.

Best decisions in the past few years have been buying my flat, taking up weightlifting & becoming a cat fosterer.