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AIBU to feel like there is no hope left

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WarriorPrincess24 · 15/05/2024 23:13

For years now I've had severe anxiety, mostly about my health but also obsessive and intrusive thoughts and since been diagnosed with OCD, panic disorder and GAD. It's become so severe I can't leave my house alone, I can't drive alone and I can't be at home alone. I've begun obsessive thinking about dying, I'm constantly thinking I'm dying, my heart's always racing, I'm always thinking I've got some sort of illness, heart attacks, cancer, blood clots, Brain aneurysms, anything life threatening. I can't sleep, lost 30 pounds in the last three months die to the stress. I'm always in immense physical pain..I'm always aware of my heart beating just waiting for it to stop. I can't enjoy life anymore. I've a DS who is 2 and I love him to death,y obsessions about death have begun around him, constantly worrying he has an illness or he will suddenly die. I've had numerous therapies over the years, CBT ERP, etc nothing has helped me. I've tried numerous medications, nothing has helped either. I just spiral even more. I have days where I feel okay and I can be quite productive but they are often short lived. My intrusive thoughts have turned more dark and even into "visions and made up scenarios and conversations in my head". I avoid all news, television etc because it just triggers me. I've had several breakdowns over the years but always been well enough to be treated at home but I've never truly felt better. I'm awaiting a full psychiatric assessment next month but this in itself has triggered me massively.. I don't know what I am can do anymore. I'm extremely isolated from absolutely everyone die to the fears I have. My partner isn't supportive as he just thinks I'm being stupid and he doesn't understand that I cannot help this, I can't stop the thoughts and the anxiety. He's getting so sick of having to hand hold me all the time (,I can't even be in a room alone, I have to be in the same room as him else I panic) when he's at work I spend m whole days just sitting doing nothing because I'm so scared of bad things happening and dying and leaving my son. I'm losing hope that I will be like this forever and I will destroy life, my son's life, my partners life be wise I'm such a misery to be around. I'm so terrified of dying but at the moment I feel like maybe it sound t be so bad be sure at least I won't have this constant misery. Not sure what I was hoping to achieve with this. I have no friends, no family who actually understand and takes me seriously. I guess I just needed to get this out. I don't know where to go from here but I'm starting to feel like things aren't real anymore and sometimes I feel completely detached from my self.

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NosyJosie · 15/05/2024 23:25

You are allowed to feel the way you feel but please know that there is ALWAYS hope. Always. The fact that you reached out with this post shows that you have hope and I’m proud of you for that!

I feel like you have reached a point where you need some proper help now and I strongly urge you to call the NHS helpline and get referred ASAP.

I don’t know your partner or you but also please know that men fundamentally want to fix things and when they can’t it is difficult for them too.

Please make the call now, it will help. I wish you all the best and one day at a time.

Spywoman · 15/05/2024 23:38

Just wondering if you have ever felt truly safe. If so what was happening then that is different to now? What has happened since that has changed that?

It kind of sounds like you need a reset, so that you can get a temporary respite from the intrusive and anxious thoughts. Then you can start to work on building tolerance to being on your own little by little until it no longer terrifies you.

Your body is exhausted by all the fear. But once you can have a respite from the chronic fear you can start to work on soothing your body to calm your mind. Rhythmic movements like running, swimming, dancing, tapping or drumming can all help therapeutically.

Woman2023 · 16/05/2024 06:35

It does sound like you need serious help.

One of the problems with mental illness is that everything you do to reduce the pain ultimately makes it worse. Avoiding things that scare you makes your world smaller, and everything gets scarier.

A friend of mine said a group for OCD really helped him as it reduced his anxiety about having weird thoughts to know others had them too.

Please do try doctors to get help again, you can get through this.

Yahyahs22 · 16/05/2024 06:37

In my late teens, early and mid 20's, I suffered so bad with anxiety/panic disorder. I was bed bound, afraid to leave my house and lost 6 stone due to not being able to eat. I wanted to end everything. Now at 32, I have zero anxiety issues. There absolutely is hope

endofthelinefinally · 16/05/2024 06:41

It sounds horrendous. Can I just ask if, in the middle of all this, your thyroid function has been thoroughly checked?

WarriorPrincess24 · 16/05/2024 09:19

endofthelinefinally · 16/05/2024 06:41

It sounds horrendous. Can I just ask if, in the middle of all this, your thyroid function has been thoroughly checked?

Yes I've had that checked I've also had loads of other tests and they can't find anything at all.

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