Why am I so totally shit?

[Tummyvomit]

I just can't keep it together.

A few things have set me off this week. Nothing heinous. Learning about a health condition I have with very unlikely but potential serious ramifications. My sibling trying to cut me out of inheritance. Insurance issue going round in circles until today after hours and of calls ans meetings getting back to exactly where we were a year ago.

This is nothing compared to what friends are going through- bereavement, serious illness, death, infertility.

I am basically fine but I have been agitated and teary enough (not crying though) for my young children to pick up on it, and my 5 year old is now clingy and upset at bedtime.

You always hear of people keeping it together for the kids. What the hell is wrong with me that I can't even manage that?

How old are you? Perimenopause?

Everyone's different and you'll find that when everyone says they are keeping together for their kids. . . Behind closed doors they are in the same position as you and feeling the same.

Early 40s, so I guess it could certainly be that starting. That's something new to look forward to 😂

In fact, I'm probably asking the wrong question. How can I stop being shit? Is more useful to know.

I wonder if berating yourself for finding these things difficult is making you feel worse about them.
Try to be compassionate to yourself, as you would be for a friend. We all have struggles sometimes, this too shall pass ❤️

That all sounds stressful. It's not a competition- just because worse things are happening to other people, doesn't mean you have to feel fine.

As pp said be kind to yourself. Also make sure you have enough sleep, vegetables, and water and don't overdo the caffeine. Get some exercise.

Often the way we feel emotionally is actually very tied up in how we feel physically.