Stay or go? **Trigger warning** Sexual assault

[JustSaltPlease]

Hi all

I typed out a very long post then decided I didn't want to risk it being revealing so am just going to make this quick.

Would you stand by your DP if they were accused of rape but then no evidence found, case dropped and no charges brought.

No sign he slept with her, and he denies sleeping with her or having any sexual contact with her. Claims a completely false accusation. Night out with several other work colleagues, a lone woman stated she needed a room for the night so they allowed her to crash in their air B&B

YABU - Yes
YANBU - No

I would believe my husband over a random woman. But the fact you are asking makes me think you don’t believe him- you are allowed to trust your gut.

I think it’s more suggesting her husband could be having a tantrum over her spending the night with random blokes in an air b&b so she’s come up with a taken advantage of / rape story.

I only suggest this because I know a woman who claimed she was drugged and sexually assaulted at a house party. She’s not a bad person, just scared. Her boyfriend is a nasty controlling jealous arsehole, and she knew he’d get violent at the idea of her sleeping in a house with other guys. She told him she didn’t know the guy who supposedly assaulted her was though. So didn’t accuse anyone directly.

I would stay because I know my partner and I know there isn't a chance in hell he'd do that. A relative was accused of untoward behaviour with a student of his - we (his family) and his wife all knew it was a crock of shit, and charges were dropped because the accusor had made it all up. So it does happen (albiet rarely).

But if there's any doubt in your mind (and your posting it indicates so), then you have your answer.

You know your partner, we don't. Do you believe he is being truthful ?

I would do a Claire's law application as most sex offenders (whether convicted or not) carry out more than one offence. If 2 women with no connection to each other have "falsely" reported him you will know.
Most rapes don't get reported though so the chances are even if he had raped several other people there would be no record of it.