To think it’s weird that they keep asking about where I live

[Starbright9]

Recently moved into the village and I got talking to a school mum and they keep asking about which road I’ve moved onto and then trying to figure out which house I’m at and asking if I know my neighbours etc and they keep saying they never see my car there. They live about a 5/10 minute walk from mine and they have no reason to go onto my road apparently but have said they’ve walked up there a few times and not seen my car. Aibu to think it’s strange that they’re so bothered about where I live

Yeah village life. Pretty normal to tell eachother exactly what house you live in and with who. There's less people so people take more of an interest in those people.

As someone that came from a large town and then moved to a small market town, this is pretty much how people are. You will find there will be people who could the secret service a run for their money in terms of finding out who's who and their business. I for the most part have kept myself to myself over the years (my hubby was born and bred here and even he keeps a low profile). I don't like it, or agree with it but it's the way small town and villages are. They are just trying to find out who you are and why you have moved there in a round about way. Just let the local gossip wagon do all the leg work and try to figure it all out and live your best life.

This would drive me absolutely nuts! I would be tempted to be as evasive as possible, just to annoy them. Or deflect the questions in some way - for example, with the car thing, say “Oh wow, you must have quite a memory! I can barely remember what my own car looks like, never mind a stranger’s! Let’s hope I’m never called as a witness, eh?”

Failing that, give outlandish answers to get them excited. “Oh, I don’t really live anywhere as such; I tend to just crash wherever I fall down at the end of the last bottle”.

Is she trying to find out so she can drop her kid off so you can take to school or collect or something? Wouldn’t put it past her.

Can be village life

The number of people in ours who know what the inside of my house looks like having been inside. No idea what the previous owners were doing? Sounds like there were whole village parties on our back lawn 🤷🏼‍♀️. Freaked me out initially but now I tend to retort back with "oh that wallpaper in the back bedroom was awful, did you know it was put up with sellotape?" Gets the gossip mill going and interesting to find out how far the gossip spreads.

Exactly what I was thinking!

Welcome 🤗 I live in a village and lots of people talk like this. Everyone know who’s bought what house (and the number of the street) and who is buying there’s and so on. The person probably knows where you live if it’s a village, trust me 😂

I lived in a village once it lasted a year.
I blood hated it.

From reading Miss Marple I am fairly certain that your exact address will soon become highly relevant in the solving of a murder…..

I find that by frequently over-sharing, people stop asking questions. The more evasive you are, the more you're like crack to them 😂

Do they think you have a school place that you shouldn’t have got?

id enjoy messing with their small mindedness if they keep it up….

I lived in a small village several years ago, and in doing my bit to fit I went along to the village 'cheese and mince pie evening' the first Christmas I moved it. I'd only lived lived there a few months at the time. Random man I got talking to, who lived in other side of village, cheerfully informed me that apparently I was quite the enigma as no-one knew what time I usually went to bed, as I walked upstairs too quietly for the neighbours to hear. 🤣🤣

I'm remembering all the other happenings now!!

If only lived there about 3 days and I got an anonymous note through my door telling me to check the gas fire before I used it, because this person knew the previous owner had problems with it, and they didn't knew if I'd been informed.

And the first time I went to the local chippy, and it was locked and closed early with the woman mopping up inside. I tried the door and realised it was locked and she gave me daggers so I shouted "It says you're open til 8" and she shouted back "We've closed early" and I asked why and she said "BECAUSE EVERYONE'S BEEN IN!" 🤣🤣

This is so sweet. I want to move to a village!

They've already done this!

Standard village etiquette. Nothing to do with snobbery but just trying to work out where everyone is. Especially if you have kids it's important to do the same so they make friends within walking distance

This isn't weird for village life. Coming from an abusive relationship, embrace it and make new friends. Just be on your guard for the local gossips 😂 we're about to have the villagers after us with their pitchforks... we're daring to move from village centre to, god forbid, a new build on the edge of the village 😱😱 helppppp

Sounds a dreadful, nosy and petty place.
Don't answer any questions, reply vaguely, and say "very nice" a lot. Never admit to remembering anyone who speaks to you.
They are so limited they'll think you're potty, and make up all the details about you for themselves.

Sounds typical of village life to me.
I was born and grew up in a village. I got totally fed up with everyone knowing my business and having virtually no privacy, I couldn't wait to leave 🙄
I now live in a large town and could never go back to village life.

Not strange to ask once where you live. Very strange to be specifically looking for your car several times! Stalker alert

Should probably add I live in a city and have never spoken to my adjoining neighbour on one side since he moved in about 8 years ago and that's exactly how I like it 🤣. Sadly do see/hear my neighbours on the other side constantly

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I just love, that no matter what part of the UK, village life is the same 🤣

I live in a village, and I've been here for almost 35 years, and have lived in two houses. I know my NDN up and downhill quite well. But because we moved out of the village centre 28 years ago, newcomers to the centre assume that we are here for Air BnB. It's generally quite amusing, especially when they canvass for the parish council.

It is friendly chat :)

the mum try to get you in her circle. That is actually quite nice except if you want to be left alone.

if you want the friendship, chat back, you will find out if she is nice.

It’s fascinating how different we all are, I find this response so unhinged 😂