Sick child

[Unicornsparks88]

DD has a high temp and unwell today so unable to go to school. DH is away with work and my mum won't have her if she's sick as doesn't like to catch anything.

DH thinks my parents should have her. His mum always has SILs daughter when she is ill. They live opposite end of country. She even had her on 75th birthday which I thought was selfish of SIL.

Today I am meant to be on site for a meeting which I was specifically asked to come in for / lead. I can't. I have nobody else who can take DD and DH is 5 hours away.

I feel like a bad employee.

Doesn't sound like you have any options so nothing you can do really. These things happen, just like if you were to get sick and couldn't go in. It certainly doesn't make you a bad employee!

Ring in work as soon as you can…..then it’s done….it is what it is…..your Mum is quite right to not want to look after a a sick child….next time she’s I’ll your DH can stay off with her

What is your AIBU? Your DH is BU. Your mum is perfectly reasonable for having the boundaries she has and I think it's nasty behaviour for your husband to be trying to say she should change her boundaries.

If DH is 5 hours away, he gets in the car now to be back and relieve you for the afternoon. That way you can at least get some work done. You're not a bad employee, you're just a parent dealing with life.

Your husband sounds very entitled. Maybe he should return from his trip to look after his daughter rather than expect your mum to do it. Cheeky bastard.

Great his mum does that but to be fair people shouldn’t push sick kids onto someone, how would you feel if your mum caught what she had? Really sorry op, Murphy’s law isn’t it? It’s like kids are destined to get sick when we really need them not to!

Does your DH ever take time off to look after dd? You’re a bad employee if you aren’t sharing sickness Cover with your dh 50/50 but if you usually do and it’s just your turn this time, it can’t be helped. Life happens sometimes. Work will still be there tomorrow.

Just get in with it. Not sure what the point of this.

Single parent here no back up so every sick day dentist/hospital app is mine to manage. Own it with work. I do. My kids are more important AND I'm professional at my job.

Frankly you don't have a choice!!!

your DH is being massively unreasonable. Is he far? can he be drafted back in? otherwise it's you. It happens. Kids gets ill. Nothing you can do.

Your DH is totally unreasonable and should get himself back asap. It’s fair enough that your mum doesn’t want to expose herself to a sickness bug; the older you get, the harder these things hit you and the longer you take to recover.

DH thinks my parents should have her.

Its DH's (and your) child - why is it your mothers responsibility to look after his sick child? DH should realign his expectations that the only 2 people who have a responsibility for a sick child are the parents. And if you have done all the sickness cover for the child recently the responsibility should fall to him

Sorry but part of being a parent. Either conduct in teams, delegate or rearrange

How old is your daughter?