To feel a bit bereft

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I'm a woman in my early 40's, I've never had a huge circle of friends but do have a few good ones but due to life an distance we don't see each other often but do speak otp regularly.

I made friends with a new person last year and along with some other ladies formed a lovely supportive group who loved to do things together and celebrate each others wins.

This particular lady and I spoke/saw each other every day and had lots in common - I felt very fortunate to make a new friend at this point in my life and felt things were coming together and I finally found my "group".

Sadly I had to end the friendship a few weeks ago over some shocking behaviour on her part. I don't want to give details but we will never speak again.

In my mind I see now we were never really as good friends as I thought but I feel so sad about the loss of this friendship and it has made me realise that I've actually been through quite lonely for a long time.

I now feel there's little point in bothering to try to make new friends as it always seems so surface.

Is if ridiculous for me to be so unsettled and upset by this?

I think it’s totally understandable to feel like that, especially if your friendship ended on bad terms. But I think your overall feelings are probably more common than you think.

I do find it harder to make friends than I did when I was younger, most people already have established friends/groups, and have a lot more going on with their lives with family/work etc.

Definitely don’t let it put you off making new friends though! Lifelong friends are difficult to find, but you can still build meaningful friendships with people, even if those friendships don’t last for years and years.

Thank you @Work2live

Wise words x