Toxic family member....warn others?

[Redflagman]

We have a family member who over the years has been emotionally abusive to women.

He was married but slapped his wife, then he has been in several relationships since then.

This person is a bully, nasty and I believe narcissist personality disorder.

He's left a wake of destruction, pain and suffering.

I don't know what I can do to stop women getting hurt. His ex wife and ex fiance tried to warn a woman he was involved with and eventually she realised and escaped.

But since then there's been 4-5 women who are left broken and distraught.

He initially comes across as handsome, charming, gentleman like and slowly begins to be controlling, negative and suddenly turns nasty. He then dumps/walks away and returns saying sorry/I love you ect only to walk away leaving the woman deeply hurt. He then gets in another relationship very quickly and shows off the new partner to the heartbroken woman.

He lives 250 miles away, I don't have any details such as address, surname or contact details to reach out to these women.

I just feel so sad and helpless watching from afar.

One of his ex partners did say that he is well known in the town where he lives on the south coast and several people did warn her at the time.

Trouble is, he now uses online dating so meets women out of the area who have no idea what he is like until it is too late.

There is nothing you can do unless you broadcast this on every conceivable type of media. Even then, some women will miss it and may enter into a relationship with him.
I don't see why this is anything to do with you really. Are other family members concerned about how he treats women? If so, try to undertake an intervention or something - you must have thought about what you want to do.
But you have to be very, very sure of your facts because he isn't going to thank you if you start interfering.
There are 100s of shitty men and women treating people in their relationships badly. Do you want some kind of wanker register as with sex offenders?

We've tried interventions, nothing has worked..

The whole family is currently low contact because of his behaviour..

He lies so much we don't know what the truth is....so no I won't do anything, but it just feels awful that this is happening and I can't prevent it

I would go no contact. Sounds like no reason to be in contact with this man. Then you don't have to hear about what he's. Web up to, and hopefully his reputation increases for more women to know about it.

You cant really interfere with his relationships. I also think you are overestimating the likelihood of the damage he can do to someone. Women gets into relationship - relationship doesn't work out, woman gets out of relationship..... that is life multiple times over for most of us. It is easier on the heart when things end with an unpleasant man than when they end with a nice one