So fat and ugly

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Honestly can't believe how much I've changed in the space of a few years. Coincidentally since having my second baby. I have so much flab about my belly, my face is bloated and lined. My hair is flat and lanky. I look like utter shit and I loathe this time of year because I take some solace in being able to hide in leggings and baggy sweatshirts but now it's not possible.

The worst thing is I know what I need to do to change. I need to reduce my portions and eat more nutritionally. I need to cut down on processed food and quit or at least reduce booze. I need to exercise more since I work in a sedentary job. I promise myself I'll make these changes. I just don't. Because as bad as it is for me, food and wine brings me comfort.

I honestly can't stand to see myself in photos. My job involves a lot of promo stuff on camera and I can't even watch a lot of it back. I'm just so sick of myself.

Is that baby still in a buggy?

No helpful tips just empathy because I feel the same. I find I really dislike myself and its because of my mental health. Does that resonate with you?
No helpful tips but a handhold x

You can walk till you drop but if your diets crap you're at nothing in terms of weight loss.

Baby will turn 2 in the summer. She is full on and I am exhausted. We used to walk a lot but she screams in the buggy now. I work 4 days a week and I'm tired and flat. I find myself not wanting to socialise with friends because I'm so self conscious about how I look. But then I just stay in and fall into the same old cycles. I have no energy to change anything but equally I know I'm making myself miserable.

Talk to your doctor. If you're keen to lose weight they'll want to help. There are all sorts of different approaches to this, it's just a case of finding the right thing for you.

You put these two sentences one after the other:

Because as bad as it is for me, food and wine brings me comfort.
I honestly can't stand to see myself in photos.

It's not bringing you comfort if it's coming with such unhappiness too. Short term comfort but long term loathing for yourself isn't true comfort. It's a band aid over whatever you're feeling.

Can you find other things to do that make you feel good?

Can you start with a haircut? The trouble with losing weight is that it takes bloody ages, but a hair do can make you feel better v quickly. Ditto nails, massage, anything that makes you aware of your body and yourself in it.

Start with really tiny changes OP, like eat same food but smaller portion. Then couple of weeks same food but maybe swap potatoes for sweet potatoes, then weeks after more veg and replace something else etc and just add a 10 minute walk a day and gradually increase that. Tiny changes will make tiny differences you see and once you start seeing tiny differences, you will feel accomplished and want to see more, therefore you'll want to start doing more and seeing more changes

Personally I think starting an exercise regime and sticking to it consistently for two weeks at least is the biggest kick start.

I bought a Peloton and I have been on it everyday for 4 weeks now. Only 30 minute workouts. But it makes me eat healthier because I don’t want to waste the work plus gives me more energy.

I have found I soon start to feel better, probably no change to everyone else… but a big psychological boost.

Best of luck x