Child having a hard time at school

[CaramelMacchiatoMum]

Interested to hear your thoughts and other perspectives. My year 3 has been consistently picked on and bullied by one girl in her class. It’s relentless and has been going on for about 4 months. The teacher has been helping and trying to resolve things by keeping them apart in the classroom and monitoring them in the playground. They are definitely trying to help. Last week it came to a head again after another week of shitty comments and nastiness, I emailed again. Enough is enough. School are trying to resolve it by making my child more resilient. She is though, she doesn’t get upset by it any more, just wishes it would stop. Surely instead of trying to build resilience in my child they should just be having a word with this child’s parents? Or am I seeing this all wrong? Thanks.

You’re not wrong and it’s quite shitty of the school to try and fix this by making your child “more resilient”. Squeaky wheel gets the oil - I’d be asking for a meeting with the teacher at the very least.

What evidence to the school have of this girls behaviour? If they have evidence, she should be being sanctioned

I agree. The bully needs to change not your dd

Have you only spoken to the teacher? I'd be going higher now to the Head if the teacher clearly hasn't sorted it. This is not your DDs fault, or problem to be fixed, this is the bully who needs to be dealt with

I agree they should be speaking to the girl's parents. From personal experience, though, these girls are often very good at hiding their true nature when anyone might observe them. There's a girl in my daughter's class who is vile to the other girls, but a real teacher's pet in the classroom and makes sure no-one sees her nip or pull hair. The teachers find it very hard to sanction her because they've no evidence other than what one or two parents have reported.

ETA there's no point them talking to the girls' Mum because it's blatantly obvious where the girl has learnt the tricks of her trade. A more false woman I have never met.

poor kid! IMO some schools can be really shit at dealing with bullying. I suggest you get more serious with a written complaint and ask to talk to the head, cite their anti bullying policy and suggest that if nothing changes you will be going to the governors.

We've had school minimise all sorts of bullying incidents over the last few months and you have to be really hot on escalating it.