Teacher saying to my Dd ‘Don’t lie’

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Dd is almost 6, for two years now she’s had the same teacher in Pre school (we’re abroad)
Dd often has tummy troubles..gets constipated and gas/stomach ache, her stomach gets big and she sometimes feels ill after eating when constipated. She’s much better than she was, but was impacted a couple of years ago and went to specialists at the hospital etc. The teacher was informed of all of this and has copies of emails and Drs reports etc.
Dd hasn’t had any big problems for a while, but it still occasionally comes and goes.
Last week she felt sick after eating twice and the teacher called me and I picked her up, she was ok afterwards but struggled to poo a bit and I’ve been giving her natural drinks which is helping the constipation. She told me she feels sick after eating school lunch and can’t eat much but then it passes a bit later. I told her to try to wait and see if it passes at school. She’s been saying she doesn’t want to go to school as is worried about feeling sick, but I managed to get her there.
Today I arrived to pick her up and the assistant was saying to me that she wasn’t sick but said she was, the teacher then said to me that she was ok but saying she was sick. It was all very rushed so I didn’t have time to process it.
In the car I was asking Dd if she felt sick and she said yes after eating lunch and she said she told the teacher and the teacher said to her ‘Don’t lie’
Dd has come home and cried and said she feels sick, she then managed to do a poo and said she feels a lot better. Her stomach is still bloated though.
Im fuming the teacher and assistant think she’s making this up and that the teacher said this to her, I’ve told Dd she must always say if she’s sick and not be scared to (which I think she now is) The teacher has always been aware of her problems, so not of it is lying at all
Feel like taking her back to the Drs to issue yet another medical letter to state it to them
What would you do?

Also Dd told me when she told the teacher, before telling her not to lie, the teacher sighed and rolled her eyes

*None of it is lying at all

I work as a teacher, so I may see things from her perspective.
If a child is ill, I notice that they are withdrawn, pale and just not able. I have no issue calling the office to send them home.
I also have a huge cohort of children who tell me they're ill, and two minutes later are laughing, running around the place in flying form. It's confusing. I judge their sickness by their behaviour and appearance. Is your daughter up and down with illness?

@BoundaryGirl3939 As I said, because it’s constipation and gas, she can feel sick and full
after eating at times but then better a while later or if able to poo, the teacher knows her issues. Would you say to a crying 5 year old directly not to lie?

No, I wouldn't say 'Don't Lie'. Perhaps have a word with the teacher and remind her verbally to be extra conscious. Perhaps she is overwhelmed in a class full of 6 year olds with several children complaining of phantom aches. I've been there before. Would you like for her to be collected if she feels sick, or what do you want?

Could it be a translation issue- ie, to some people, sick means to vomit? And it sounds like she felt sick, but didn't throw up? So the teacher meant, she didn't throw up?

This teacher has had emails and doctors’ reports though. This isn’t a completely healthy child saying she’s “ill”.

@FictionalCharacter Exactly. She’s aware of the issues, it’s not a joke and an eye roll and Dd lying

That’s very frustrating op. And stressful for you and your little girl. She is still so small and it’s a worry to think she is just being dismissed if there was eye rolling even if you still got called. As an adult that can have stomach issues I know it can be really uncomfortable. I would have a chat with the teacher and say what your little girl said. I would just be polite and ask does she need a more recent letter from the doctor confirming there is a genuine issue? Chances are that might make her be less dismissive alone.

Feel really cross!