Puddings!

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My children want a pudding at every meal!
lunch and dinner
i I sometimes relent and let them have cake yoghurt or biscuits
they get a pudding after every school lunch a cake icecream or cookie!
aibu to think a pudding is no longer a treat if it’s given several times every day!
Do you all give puddings after every meal? Most kids I see at pick up have sweets or bar of chocolate after school too! I’ve said no to these as it all feels too much
but little ones say I’m mean!!
is two puddings a day too much? I try say have fruit or yogurt mainly but all I get is moans!!

Mine have pudding every day at school, though it's often yoghurt or fruit. I have to pre-order, so I know what they choose. The cake/cookie option is usually pretty rubbish they tell me!

At home, we have a pudding maybe 1-2 times a week after dinner. It might be something like a crumble or a cake, but often it's sliced melon or a fruit salad. My dc would take someone's right arm off for a melon. They love it. There is always the option of fruit if they want it, like an apple or a banana from the fruit bowl, if they are still hungry. But we don't have actual proper puddings very often. If they ask, I offer fruit or more dinner. If they're truly hungry, they'll eat it.

Fruit or yoghurt is absolutely fine as a pudding.

When I was growing up I had school dinner pudding and a cooked meal and a proper homemade pudding every night at home.

There wasn't the snacking culture of today though and sweets were a weekend treat only, and even then not every week. Crisps were even rarer. My mother would make a cake each week and once it was gone it was gone. That was it until the following week.

All my friends were similar and no one was overweight bar one child who really stood out but I don't recall anyone ever saying anything about her weight.

A pudding isn't meant to be a 'treat', is it? Like @Elphame I had school pudding at lunchtime and pudding at home in the evening every day - it's part of a normal meal and I still do it now.

We aren't pudding people, so the idea of having two puddings a day seems excessive to me. Less so if you're having a yoghurt or fruit, though.
I reckon we only ever have a 'proper' pudding - a sticky toffee pud or piece of cheesecake, for example - on the weekend. I'd avoid dishing out biscuits or cake twice a day unless it was a treat day.

Mine has an ice-lolly after her dinner. Usually about 35 cals, sugar free with fruit juice. To her it's a treat to me it's just frozen juice.

We had pudding every day at school in the 80s. Sponge of different flavourings and custard of different colours most days. Choc custard was the best.

Or jam roly poly and custard...

There was a lot of custard.

But we played PE every day, pretty much everyone walked to school and we played out more and while there was a tuck shop at school - very few people would have been there every day, eating in the street in school uniform was forbidden, we had sweets on Friday and it was a caramac or a mini milky way.

Very little fizzy pop.

In short, if your kids are active - why not?

I didn't grow up in the UK, but I find the idea you'd have a dessert every day - let alone with two meals a day - bizarre. It's an occasional treat, like if you go to a restaurant for a celebration or invite people over for a meal. Same way that you might have a starter at a restaurant or at a dinner party but wouldn't have multiple courses at home.

Reading this thread I can see the school lunches are responsible for creating the idea that dessert is a normal part of everyday eating....

My daughter is the same, her pudding at school is tiny though. At home she'll have maybe a couple of jaffa cakes, a small cake bar like a cadbury mini roll/mars cake bar etc, a sugar free ice pop, an ice lolly, sugar free jelly with grapes or tinned pinapple, lemon fibre one cake bars.
She brushes her teeth very well and is always running around at playtime/PE plus does after school clubs dance and swimming so i don't see the issue with it. I know i had pudding after every school meal and a lot of time after dinner at home too.
She gets sweets maybe twice a week but not at school pick up as i don't want other kids to see her and get upset if they don't get any or pester their parents to get them something.

OK so we do need to
adapt to the fact that we have more
sedentary lifestyles but there is some seriously disordered thinking around food here. You shouldn’t be feeding your kids sugar free stuff or diet bars- they have no nutritional value and are terrible for developing bodies !!

Eat real food, in appropriate portions.

It is not a good idea to have a pudding with every meal. But there will be whining about it.

Really? To me it’s a once or twice a week treat for the kids, and for me only if we’re eating out or have guests over. But fruit and (Greek) yoghurt I wouldn’t count as ‘pudding’.

And I have pudding of one sort or another daily, because if I don't I don't feel like I've finished. It isn't a chore to me because it's all part of getting dinner ready and even if I'm so tired I can hardly see I'll have some ice cream, or something. I don't eat between meals, and I suspect the pudding is part of the reason why.

Sometimes I also have salad first, and cheese and biscuits after if dinner was a lightweight one. I could spend all evening on it 😊

Thanks
I am going to continue to say fruit is pudding and hope for the best!

We don't have pudding often. How about jelly? That's basically a solid drink