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To be mortified

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Sarah8764 · 13/05/2024 01:14

I am utterly mortified.

I always keep my bedroom blinds shut as my bedroom windows gets really hot and can be aired through vents and my bathroom window so it keeps it cooler this way.

Anyway earlier today I opened the blind to take a picture of my garden. I then went about my evening in my dressing gown before deciding to do my hair before bed.

I completely forgot one blind floor to ceiling was open because there’s no light out my back garden so I didn’t notice. I sat in front of my mirror merrily doing my hair in just my pants for 30 mins+ next to but not directly in front of my window. I then got up to go to the bathroom, put my dressing gown on to go downstairs get a drink etc, went in and out of my bathroom which is directly in front of the window albeit 5 metres away from it. I then moved a few bits by my window and didn’t notice still, turned the light off and hopped into bed.

And it was at this point I realised the blind was open! My neighbours at the back go to bed fairly early I think so I’m hoping they won’t have seen anything. But it is hot and they leave their balcony door ajar in this weather so I’m utterly paranoid now that they might have just been watching me naked wander round my room having a laugh at my expense and my mind is running away with itself now.

I’m really body conscious and I’m
terrified they will have pictures of me, and can picture me being shared around on their WhatsApp with everyone taking the p out of me. I think I’m being overly paranoid and of course have no basis for thinking this ridiculous thought, but my husband has been zero support and I’m just in bits about it crying feeling really anxious.

I can’t stop ruminating about whether they will have seen me; trying to remember when exactly I took my dressing gown off. Dont really know what advice I’m looking for but could do with a handhold I think.

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Sarah8764 · 13/05/2024 01:14

Dressing gown not dressing room!

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Redglitter · 13/05/2024 01:17

I’m really body conscious and I’m
terrified they will have pictures of me, and can picture me being shared around on their WhatsApp with everyone taking the p out of me. I think I’m being overly paranoid and of course have no basis for thinking this ridiculous thought

That's a massive leap. And such a worst case scenario its not worth any head space. IF they've seen you they've probably put it down to what it was - a one off oversight.

Chances are they haven't seen a thing

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Sarah8764 · 13/05/2024 01:19

Thank you @Redglitter thats what I’d think to if I saw them naked in their room but I am still so worried. For example I’m now envisioning they have a security camera and it will have caught me naked!

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IdaPolly · 13/05/2024 01:19

It would make them look bad to share photos of you. They'd only do that if they were awful, pervy people, not if they were reasonably normal people. They probably didn't see you. Can they actually see your bedroom from their house?
My daughters have got bedroom windows that come down quite low. They've got frosted window film on the lower panes. Easy to put on.

IdaPolly · 13/05/2024 01:21

They shouldn't have a security camera pointing at your bedroom.

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Sarah8764 · 13/05/2024 01:21

@IdaPolly I think they can because I can see partially into their bedroom.

I can only see a little way in and I only know this because I saw him in his pants at his window once 🙈

I’m hoping that they can’t see properly into mine

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Sarah8764 · 13/05/2024 01:22

IdaPolly · 13/05/2024 01:21

They shouldn't have a security camera pointing at your bedroom.

I’ve never even thought to look if they have a security camera and think it’s probably unlikely as their property is really secure from the front with a high hedge at the back. So I do think it’s unlikely but my mind is just running away with itself

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LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 13/05/2024 01:46

Even if they saw you, they would have shut their blinds and ignored it.

Catza · 13/05/2024 06:47

Sarah8764 · 13/05/2024 01:21

@IdaPolly I think they can because I can see partially into their bedroom.

I can only see a little way in and I only know this because I saw him in his pants at his window once 🙈

I’m hoping that they can’t see properly into mine

And at that point, did you take his picture and share it on WhatsApp group? No? So why do you assume they would?
We never have blinds closed and, honestly, I haven't thought once whether my neighbours can see me or not. They shouldn't be looking in the first place.

BabyRaindeer · 13/05/2024 06:51

Any women accidentally looking in won't have taken your photo, and I really doubt if partner of woman would either as she would have Bollocked him for doing this.

Don't worry

TeaGinandFags · 13/05/2024 06:57

Did you sell pictures to the press when you saw him in his pants?

Of course not! Neither would they if the actually saw you. You are an ordinary woman with an ordinary body doing ordinary things in it. No one else cares and neither should you.

If you're body conscious then try and find a way of not being so. Find ways of enjoying it and loving it. It's only "perfect" when you're 20. Then you have kids, grow old and basically knock it about. You'll be much happier.

Sunnyandsilly · 13/05/2024 07:17

Goodness this is very extreme. Is there a back story in terms of your mental health?

I get being embarassed they might have seen, and yes they might, but to think they were taking photos or you were captured on the security camera and they are sharing it on what’s app and slagging you off and to be crying repeatedly is really concerning. The odds of them doing this are nearly non existent.

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 13/05/2024 10:55

Babe, even if they saw you, you're allowed to be naked inside your own home.

This is not a normal reaction at all. I suspect your husband isn't being helpful because he's baffled - it doesn't matter, no one is going to have filmed you or take the piss or anything of that nature.

5128gap · 13/05/2024 11:04

OP, normal people who catch an accidental view of their naked neighbours do not sit there laughing about it or video them for social media. They politely look away/pretend they haven't seen. Worse case, a little snigger to themselves, quickly forgotten. Unless you have reason to suspect your neighbours are creepy peeping toms, then stop worrying. It happens.

IdaPolly · 13/05/2024 15:46

BabyRaindeer · 13/05/2024 06:51

Any women accidentally looking in won't have taken your photo, and I really doubt if partner of woman would either as she would have Bollocked him for doing this.

Don't worry

The scenario of the woman telling off the pervy dh trying to sneak a photo made me laugh as it reminded me of a Carry On Film. Unless you live in a Carry On film you'll be ok OP. If you do then look for any holes in the bathroom wall and squirt toothpaste in them in case someone's looking through.

K37529 · 13/05/2024 16:20

The most likely thing is that no one saw you. If someone did see you they would have quickly looked away incase you saw them peering at you. No way has anyone taken a photo of you. What would they tell people? Oh I was just watching through my neighbours window and managed to get a pic of her in her pants, how would people respond to that? They’d think they where a creepy bastard lol your completely over thinking this

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