I know my “behaviour” gets misinterpreted often and I can’t help it. I’m wondering if I can have some insight from people who aren’t in my life. I’ll give one example from today only:
my DD’s birthday is coming up. Last year was a little disastrous as I booked her party but didn’t send out her invites till 2 months before the birthday party. Once I did I found out there’s 2 boys in class having a joint birthday party same day and same time. All boys invited plus more than half the girls (only 22 in class btw primary school, my DD and 3 other girls left out but rest of class invited ). I changed the date and invited whole class (including the 2 boys having party who did not invite my DD).
This year I thought I’d be more clear and give more notice and messaged the 2 kids mums whose birthday same week as DD, one said she’s not planning on one so that date is free for me to use. Other one said she’s not booked anything but 100% wants that date. She decided in the end maybe she could invite just boys and I could invite girls. But she wanted me to tell her straight away which I did. I did book for whole class but can easily change to girls only. I messaged a few girl mums later and they said they’re already going to a party in the class (so one of the 2 boys, but not sure). I decided for sake Of simplicity I’ll move party to 2 weeks earlier or 2 weeks after not sure yet as place is closed so need to call up.
I feel a little crazy as I thought for sake of communication I’ll tell the 2 mums I’m going to change the date. One of them was confused and she can’t make any of the dates and wasn’t I just inviting the girls. The other one who is planning to have in same date just ignored my message. I thought I was being helpful by saying that weekend is free and I’m going to move 2 weeks earlier and just invite the girls.
I find this so hard as I know normal people don’t stress this much - or do they? Why do I find this so hard? Just for context t I only find DD’s class this stressful my sons class I find it easier. I just feel DD’s class mums are very cliquey. Any advice I’ve on what I should have gone and should go in future? I feel so annoyed with myself for trying to think of them, I should have just bloody booked it and who turns up turns up but then I’d be paying and people might not have come.