To think some regressed memories be made up?

[LoveCherryTree]

So, a friend was going through life all ok and then went to see a therapist, suddenly after a few sessions she’s had these regressed memories come flooding back, I believe she’s remembering things wrongly, but she won’t listen to me. And in some instances she believes something happened and I’ve proved 100% that it didn’t but she still won’t think that if she is imaging things that aren’t true then maybe she should be questioning the therapy.
she told me that her therapist is a man hater and other personal things, isn’t it unprofessional for a therapist to portray any of this or any personal information?
I feel like my friend is ruining her life and yet she doesn’t question any of it, she just wants to think these things happen and that’s the end of it. She thinks a friend of my parents abused her when she was young, but again, it just isn’t possible when she said it happened, she could ruin this man’s life for no reason. I’m just after some advise?

Actually I can know and I do know it didn’t.

From what I’ve read repressed memories were all the rage in the 80s with all these kids ‘remembering’ satanic rituals and stuff. It’s very easy to plant false memories in someone’s head. If anything, traumatic events tend to be relived over and over rather than forgotten.

my husbands son made similar claims that someone abused him based on repressed memories. It all started around the same time he started smoking weed heavily. I think it’s all drug induced.

Oh my god I’m so sorry, my auto correct corrected it….sorry, not sure where I said I was judging anyone, just trying to get some advice on what to do!

The judgement you are making is that it did not happen.

If the circumstances she alleges couldn’t have happened as the people involved didn’t know each other and the other person she says is a victim says it didn’t happen then it’s most likely it didn’t happened.

because it didn’t

Something similar has happened in my extended family. Someone who has been 'troubled' for much of his life has apparently uncovered repressed memories about family members who are all dead and can't defend themselves. Other family members are certain it didn't happen the way he thinks it did, which casts doubt on any of it being true. Sadly it's torn the family apart.

There's a good podcast called "you're wrong about" and they cover the Satanic panic in the 80s I think it was. The long and short of it is that people can have lives destroyed by accounts of things that didn't happen.
on the other hand, People also have traumatic events happen to them and may have blocked out painful memories and these may have distorted slightly over time. So she may have been abused but not by this man or not at the time she said.
It's not clear from the post what, if anything, she intends to do about it. Is she accusing the man? If she's not intending to go to the police, you may want to suggest that she considers carefully the fact that she may be accused of defamation herself if she is just going around telling people this. Otherwise personally I'd stay out of it, she sounds quite troubled

This situation is not the same as these are not bad memories but I have a few memories that I can visual, smell where I was and even feel the natural area around one

I was never where I remember it was not possible to be there as a child but it is real to me

This happened in my extended family also. Following therapy for something completely separate in later life, the family member had repressed memories come back of 3 male family members abusing her at differing times through her life. This also tore the whole family apart. She believes them to be the truth. She never reported it but told everyone in the family what she remembered to have happened she then felt on this information they should cut them off. I think in our families case because it came out all at once it was too hard to comprehend ie ‘this happened to me as a child, then 5 years later this happened to me by another person, then in my late teens this happened to me by another person, no one said to her it didn’t happened as they knew she believed it had but just didn’t know what to think . It resulted in her cutting herself off from everyone. We still don’t know to this day if it is true or not