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Guy I'm dating making jokes about threesome

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Stupidjokehhh · 12/05/2024 19:08

Started dating this guy 6 months ago. Initially I wasn't certain if it was just a casual thing as we hadn't clarified our intentions. I was very upset when he joked about a threesome making me question if our relationship was solely about sex. However a few weeks later we had a serious conversation where we both expressed our feelings and agreed it was more than just physical. I mentioned how the threesome comment had deeply upset me, and he apologised sincerely promising not to make such jokes again. He reassured me of his commitment expressing distress at having upset me. Fast forward three months and he's made another inappropriate threesome joke today. He was very apologic when I got upset and said that he had forgetten our conversation. I'm thinking about ending things over this. Would I be overreacting?
I know the jokes are not in a malicious way and he would be heartbroken if I ended things

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ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 12/05/2024 22:14

I woukd tell him you think it's funny he thinks he's manage to satisfy two people when he's currently struggling to satisfy just one.

Then I would set him free! I couldn't be dealing with that all the time.

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 12/05/2024 22:18

What was the joke?

Thevelvelletes · 12/05/2024 22:22

Lovemusic82 · 12/05/2024 19:17

I think many men do think it’s funny, often because it’s a fantasy that will likely never happen.

I dated a guy once that mentioned it a few times, I said “yeah ok as long as the 3rd person is a man” he then got really upset and never mentioned it again.

He is obviously a total sleaze, you told him not to mention it again because it upset you but he too no notice. He has no respect for you.

That's what sprang to mind instantly, oh yes I'd love to see you with another man...that would put the threesome idea to bed so to speak 🙊

JazbayGrapes · 12/05/2024 22:23

He wants a threesome? Easy. Invite his dad.

Thevelvelletes · 12/05/2024 22:24

Hahaha 🤣 🤣 🤣

ArtfulEagle · 26/01/2025 18:14

Vistada · 12/05/2024 19:09

He knows it upsets you, he doesn't care.

Six months in should still be honeymoon.

Leave him.

Well I know someone who had a bloke like this. He's not joking deep down that's his fantasy.There will be a young man who genuinely respects you.
J

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