Is 9 months long enough to plan a wedding abroad?

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As it says in the title, really. Partner says he is proposing this summer (but who knows when, honestly). Could be anytime between now and September. I really want to get married next June. He knows this. We are also aligned on marrying in his home country in Europe. I’m worrying that if he doesn’t propose until September (and there’s good reason to think he won’t), we won’t have time to plan the wedding. We want to get married in the Catholic Church as well, which complicates matters somewhat. Is this a reasonable fear or is 9 months plenty of time?

YABU - 9 months is loads of time
YANBU - 9 months planning for a destination wedding in the Catholic Church is mad

Why can’t you just get cracking with planning the wedding now? I genuinely don’t understand why not - takes the angst out of wasting any time since you know what it is you want!

YABU depends on the kind of wedding you want. Not all weddings have to have 100s of guests in super fancy location and venue.

Are you CAtholic? Have you both been baptized?

Yes, we are both confirmed Catholics

Agreed and my partner even has a venue in mind which is local to his home city. He’s laughed at me before though for being worried about this and said I shouldn’t start planning until he’s proposed; I genuinely think he has no idea how long it takes or how many countries’ worth of people we have to organise (three)

If you’ve both agreed you want to get married next June I don’t understand what you’re actually waiting for? The ‘proposal’ is irrelevant since you’ve already agreed to get married.

If you know the venue you want the only issue might be if it’s got availability, and if you’re getting married abroad you need to give guests as much notice as possible. It’s not really fair to spring a wedding abroad on people with only a few months notice.

I’d tell him he’s missed the boat on a proposal and you just need to get a date agreed. It doesn’t really take that long to arrange things but if the venue isn’t available then it’s a no go isn’t it.

Why doesn’t he want to propose now? If you have spoken about it, plan the wedding, you don’t need to be engaged to get married.

Then there is no issue. Doesn't take 9 months for local Priest to agree to a date.

Depends on how many travelling guests you really want there and their annual leave situation. As long as the key guests have the date, you can easily arrange in 6 months

If you are expecting people to travel the date needs to be known at least a year in advance - many people will make plans for summer 25 as soon as flights/holiday packages go on sale and if they've already booked a holiday for later in the season there's a strong chance they won't be able to afford the time off or cost of attending a wedding abroad as well.

I think he wanted to wait until a big holiday we’re going on. I’ve told him I think that’s incredibly tight timing-wise

Re: people coming, I don’t think it’ll be a huge issue. Our close friends planned a destination wedding in 4 months and we made it work dates-wise. Plus my family knows to expect it