To think there are some parents that like to boast about how relaxed they are

[Mamabear04]

I mean parents that boast about how relaxed they are about everything but then in social situations OPs have to take up their slack in looking after their child ie keeping an eye on them and tending to their needs

but then in social situations OPs have to take up their slack in looking after their child ie keeping an eye on them and tending to their needs

Stop doing it and then they will have to tend to their own child.

I was quite relaxed when mine were small, but I kept my eye on them and dealt with whatever came up.

I found that some other parents wanted to supervise every interaction between their children and the world. All that “careful, darling”. Just let Sally climb the damn tree! She’ll let you know if she gets stuck.

Like the parent(s) who put their baby on the floor of the standing area in a Taylor Swift concert and just expected people to know there was a baby there so they didn’t dance on it, fall on it or kick it etc?

There is middle ground.

There are also insanely helicopter parents who E.g. insist on walking their 11 year olds down a non vehicular drive and to the school doors whilst holding their hands and who pearl clutch at the idea that some parents would allow a child to walk 50m on a pavement in a village of approx 100 people. And who wouldn't go into a city "because it's dangerous".

I wouldn't say I am over relaxed but I think children have to be taught about risk management and not be helicoptered. Risk analysis is a skill that has to be learnt.

I prefer to make informed assessed decisions which allow my children to make their decisions within the pre assessed parameters I'm giving them.

It drives me insane when a helicopter parent swoops in. I don't want nervous and anxious kids because they aren't capable of making decisions or judgements for themselves.

I'm not talking about helicopter parenting, more parents that will for instance boast about feeding their youngest child left overs from their older kids plates or will not supervise their kids at social events like toddler groups but will boast about it. I once witnessed another parent insisted on leaving his 3 year old at a birthday party when the etiquette was for parents to stay and OP had to tend to child when she needed something/was upset. Said parent then boasted about missing his oldest child's birthday party on the same day. That kind of thing.

@JustMarriedBecca
You've described the majority of MN, kids not allowed out alone until they're 25 🤣