Do you post pic of your children's faces online / judge people who do / don't and why ?

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I occasionally post pics of my kids on FB and instagram.

Maybe once or twice a year. I occasionally do stories too. Maybe 3 to 4 times a year.

I decided that if it wasn't too often, it would be fine.

Some people never post at all or some blur out the faces.

Others post daily.

What's your stance on this and what are you reasons for posting / not posting / blurring out faces ?

Up until DS was 6 I did not post him online. If he was in a group photo at a school event or something like that was the only exception. What changed was just before his 6th birthday he asked why I didn’t put photos of him on Facebook like his friends are (it was also a week before we went into lock down).

Now I do post him but always show him the photo before hand and get him to check he is happy with it. I also go through my facebook one a month and remove old photos so there is not a backlog of his image online. He is 10 now and this works well for us. I am very aware that his image is not mine and we have drilled it into him that once it’s our there you can’t get it back so to be sure what you share.

Yes but she isn't posting in particular groups... she's updating her status say "X has had another appt with the geneticist to see if she's small or a dwarf". On her FB page to over 1k people.

It's bizzare and wrong to be posting her 5 year olds medical information all over FB, especially when its paired with her schooling and photo updates every day. I knew when this child started potty training. Its wrong.

I have never posted photos of me or any member of my family on a public forum and can't think of any reason why I would do so.

I don’t post my DC’s face or if it’s in the pic I cover/ blur it. I don’t judge people who post once in awhile; however I do judge adults who make their living from content that includes their child(ren) regularly- it’s not right to me to use their children this way as they don’t understand/ can’t consent.

So it's not for support then.

I don't post pictures of my children online. I don't feel strongly about it, but I'd like it to be their decision as much as possible what their online footprint looks like.

I don't judge people who do. I can be a bit judgy about people who post embarrassing photos - I think anything that would mortify your child if their future teenage friends saw it isn't a great idea. But just general photos of kids - fine, I can think of good reasons why you might.

Thats your opinion. And yes it is. Nothing wrong putting a photo on too. Most people post in real life. Just not people on mumsnet

I used to post quite a lot - on Instagram and Facebook both set to private. I don’t mean daily, but fairly regularly. DD was born in lockdown, I wanted to share her with friends and family who couldn’t meet her in person - I do only have friends and family on there and actually had a big cull just before she was born to ensure I only had people I’d be happy to see any pictures on there.

I never posted anything potentially embarrassing like tantrums etc, and always fully clothed.

I’ve been posting less and less as she’s got older - nothing for a while and I’m not sure if I will again really. I feel a bit differently about it now somehow. I’ve realised it’s purely for me,
for my benefit (and I guess so those who genuinely are interested get to see what she’s up to) but actually none of that is for her benefit.

I do agree with a PP that these threads are always full of people who don’t post any pictures of their children, but in real life I don’t know anyone who doesn’t share at least the occasional photo and in my years of teaching it was only ever one or two parents per year group who opted out of any photos being shared online.

Some people really do over share - I do judge one mum I know who posts constant medical info about her son and pictures of him in hospital etc - I think it’s awful.

There's peados everywhere, stop posting pics of your kids online for gods sake

The hypocritical thing is, I know so many adults who would hit the roof if someone posted a photo of them without their permission, even just on a night out.

Let alone if they were sick or vulnerable at the time.

I do, but my Facebook is only visible to friends.

This thread has prompted me to go through my followers on insta and delete any that I’m no longer in contact with in real life. My account is private anyway but it had been a while since I looked at who was following. I don’t post kid photos on insta very often (it’s mostly the dog). Do post on Facebook though, I love having the memories come up over the years. But am more likely to post a funny thing they’ve said than a photo.

The only social media i use is Facebook, infrequently, mainly for a healthcare support group that i value.

I have my profile set to private, and don't have that many "friends" on there - only really people i know quite well.

I have posted the odd snap eg a holiday photo etc. Its maybe twice a year at most. I find it odd when people report constantly on their kids lives.

Yes please watch this and make your own mind up

I don't judge but can't be bothered with fbook or others so if people know me they can call and see us personally lol

I've stopped I did when they were younger.
I know someone who has quite a public role and she's always using the dc as a prop.

I find it deeply uncomfortable and part of a feeling of mother earth to 20 thousand insta viewer

I do on my private FB but I only have about 40 friends - made up of family and close friends.
I do question (to myself) those who have open FB's and continue to share everything their children do but.. not my circus, not my monkeys.

I don’t know why but this video has always felt really off-putting to me in a way which detracts from its valuable message

I put up photos occasionally, on special days , when one has an event or a show. In laws are overseas and as I am NC with my family this is The only way I have to keep in touch with those I still have contact with.

My account is private and I don't have loads on my friends list

I post my kids all the time, on both Insta and Facebook. They both also get posted on the childminders page which is completely open, and DS is in the school video which is again public. I don't have a problem with them been on SM.

I don't judge those who don't want theirs online though do whatever is best for you.

Is that not what whatsapp is for? Sorry, still seems to be for the likes.

Yes I do, however I know every single person that I have added to my accounts. Both my Facebook and instagram are fully private with none of her photos available to see publicly. Before she was born I went through and removed anyone I didn't know as I knew I'd want to post photos of her and didn't want strangers looking at her.

I don't judge those who don't want theirs online though do whatever is best for you.

I think this is the problem.

Parents are doing what's best for them and getting an ego rub from the likes/hearts.

It's not best for the children.

For me it depends on the age of the child. If they're older and can understand/ consent then fine. If they're little kids then I disagree.

My kids are 5 and 2 and have never been posted online, no pic, not even a mention of a name. Absolutely nothing. It is up to them when they are old enough to decide for themselves about an online presence. It should always be the child's choice and that's why I judge.

No it's not. I don't care about the likes at all. Really sad that people do post for that but I really don't.