DH currently has his best friend staying with us (came to visit on holiday). We all went out last night for a few cocktails in town and got a Lyft (like Uber) back home. Lyft driver started missing turns and seemed really out of it - my husband made a joking comment to the driver who did not respond which was odd. We then got to the part of the route home which is a motorway, the driver crossed a lane and swerved sharply on the rocky verge before joining the road again. My DH asked the driver if he was ok and driver did not respond which was a huge red flag. I think he had fallen asleep at the wheel in hindsight.
I quietly asked my husband to change the destination in the Uber app (he booked the ride) to somewhere coming up close by on the route and told him we needed to get out of the car. My husband started bickering at me telling me I could simply tell the driver myself to pull over and was not going to change the destination. We were on a motorway so:
- Driver could not immediately pull over otherwise we would be on the side of the motorway with no walkable exit
- Driver was not speaking to us or replying to our prior questions
- Driver may not be familiar with the part of town where we live so could not just 'pull over'
Huband continued quietly bickering at me in front of his friend in the car, making out I was being dramatic when I was absolutely terrified. Bare in mind, we are still driving all over the place on the road. I ended up having to raise my voice to my husband to get him to change the destination in the app so the driver could finally take a turn off the motorway and we could get out. It felt so embarrassing to do this in front of his friend. The driver followed the new route, albeit swerving across a road again and I was terrified.
We finally get out of this crazy car and my husband is in a big strop with me, saying we were only three minutes away from home and that now we had to walk home. Husband's best friend seemed pretty chill and I think was glad to get out of the car. However husband continued to be off with me last night and seemed to want to paint me in a bad way in front of his friend.
I'm pretty devastated for the principal that I felt in danger/ saw all our lives in danger and it felt like my husband was more concerned about keeping face in front of a friend. It took him less than 3 seconds to put in a new address in the app.
My husbands now gone off on a road trip with his best friend for a few days and I have been left alone. Before he left this morning, he told me that he wanted to make sure I was ok, because he did not want to receive a long text from me later on...
This comment seemed so patronizing and rude to top the whole situation off. Was I wrong for reacting like that in the car? AIBU for being upset about this whole situation?