Would this be allowed - bed sharing?

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My ex has barely seen our child in the last 9 months. He is 5. My ex is abuisieb towards me.

He's cancelled many many times however has now promised me he won't do it again. His new gf - they have only been together 5 months - is now organs with his child.

He's just had him for a full day and has now announced he wants our son every other weekend for the full weekend. I've said no to this. My son has issues with the toilet and anxiety.

My son would also not have his own bed at my ex girlfriend's house. Apparently my son would sleep in the girlfriend's bed with my ex and she would sleep in the same bed as her daughter.

Ex is now telling me he will go to court. Would my son need to have his own bed in order to stay over?

I very much doubt he will go to court but I'd be interested to know what cafcass would allow in situations like this?

As far as I'm aware, there wouldn't be room for my son to have his own bed and when their baby arrives, it would make it even worse.

Oh ffs so many spelling mistakes sorry!

He is abusive

She is pregnant with their child

I’d let him take you to court . Because he may well not even bother. Secondly yes he will be expected to provide a bed. So keep any texts saying he doesn’t have one.

5 months and she’s pregnant and they are living together already?

They would expect to look at the best interests for your child. He can’t dip in and dip out. It would start slowly. He would have to be committed - well his new girlfriend and do the grunt work?

Wait and see if he approaches court, unlikely given his recent antics.

My advice is keep a diary, communicate via text or email only. Be clear - yes he’s available X day /time and mention the issues make it clear

Co sleeping couple nights every other weekend is not a big deal
In fact may help with ds anxiety to have his dad there nearby
You need a bigger reason

I have many bigger reasons. He threatened suicde in front of my ds for one. I have many emails saying he won't bother with ds anymore.

Ex needs to build my trust with ds before he gets more contact. The only reason ex wants him now is because he wants to play happy families. This is the 4th child to the 4th mother.

Yes I do this. He's blocked on my phone she to continued abuse so we only communicate by email.

He's only like this because he's about things are going good in his life. It's never ever consistent. He has 1 child that wants no further contact with him - she's 10 and hasn't seen her dad since we separated.

It's such a toxic situation.