To think this is not ideal but not damaging (childcare)

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Baby started nursery at 11 months; nursery very suddenly closed down. Had to find another one quickly and the one found was nice but not ideal in terms of location so another nursery move following a house move aged 2. In a forest school setting for a year but care sub par so final move age 3.

It isn’t ideal but AIBU to think this isn’t damaging in any way?

So they’re on nursery 5? I would suggest you look at the patterns here before making other decisions concerning your child. Somethings are unfortunate but 5 is a lot!

I think it depends on the child, plus what else is going on in life.

Some kids are resilient and cope well with upheaval/ new caregivers, whereas others can be very knocked off and almost traumatised by the same experiences. I do think that sounds like a great deal of upheaval for a child so young. I know how stressful I find it to move house/ get a new job. If I were you I would focus on prioritising stability as far as possible from now on. Hopefully it won't have done any damage so far, but if this pattern of constantly being moved around and not able to settle anywhere continues I think you might run into problems down the line.

Look at what pattern? I’m not being obtuse, it’s a genuine question.

5 nurseries in 3 years? That is a lot for a child to cope with. They can’t have had much time to make attachments to the staff and other children.

Presumably in a year they’ll go to school too so a 6th setting in 4 years.

Enough with the blaming shit! The OP has had to make these choices due to circumstance. What would you have done in the circs - leave your child in sub par care?

That’s what I’m a bit baffled at.

I think damaging is a bit strong, but definitely unsettling and I wouldn't be surprised if they had some signs of anxiety. But hopefully apart from school that's big moves done now.

Will be fine I beat myself up so much moving my 3 year old from the nursery she had been at since she was 1 and loved but we moved house as many do for school catchment areas. After a few weeks she didn't remember the old setting. You are the consistent presence in their life. Relax

She shows no signs of anxiety, really happy confident little girl.

Starts school September 25,

I really wouldn't worry - it's not like it could be helped!

I had three childminders and went to nursery too - it was fine!

This is one of those where it depends on the
child. Some are simply more resilient than others.

DS started nursery at 12 months and it was horrible. He cried a lot and his separation anxiety went through the rough, but after about 6 weeks, was happy and more settled. We moved when he was just over two and I felt so guilty putting him through it again, but he settled at his new nursery in a week and was perfectly happy.

If your child seems to have adapted well, I wouldn’t over think it.

Also, where is five coming from? It’s four.

Nursery one - closed
nursery two - moved house
nursery three - awful care
nurssry four - where they are currently

Sorry, should have explained and I’m not meaning to come across rude, I have things Im not aware of that I do! Do you have a tendency to jump into things without considering if they’re the best choice ? First nursery one of those things, I’d have been reluctant to move because of location unless it was really impossible. Why choose the forest nursery if standard of care wasn’t as good as previous ones? Genuine questions by the way 😊

Sometimes it’s just bad luck, OP. There may be some effects from it, no telling really. Just provide him with a loving, stable home environment and he’ll more than likely be just fine.

My twins went to two nurseries and three primary schools for unavoidable reasons. They are well adjusted and happy.

Most kids end up moving rooms within nurseries to different staff so probably not much difference.

Well, but you do have to sometimes weigh up long term decisions that are for the best against things in the immediate short term. Moving house was a long term best move. As it turned out, leaving it longer would have rendered it unaffordable.

Initially the forest school looked lovely but the reality was somewhat different.

1. closed down
2. moved due to location
3. moved nursery and house (assume this is the forest one so I read that as 4)

5 final nursery but yes can see you meant 4

(Wasn't clear from OP re forest school setting if that simply a description of the last but one setting or a separate one)

What is the point of starting a thread, asking for opinions then getting pissy when people provide their opinions? Just talk about it amongst your friends/family or make a post on Facebook

DD had a similar nursery record

Nursery 1 - in retrospect should have stayed, but when eldest started school, didn't fit with drop offs

Nursery 2 - great and right next to DS's school, but closed down 4 months later.

Nursery 3 - OK but found in a hurry after 2 closed. Not overly supportive of me raising SEN concerns

Nursery 4 - current nursery, attached to school she will go to, great senco.

So 4 nurseries in 4 years, definitely not ideal, but she seems fine and settled well each time. In an ideal world she would have stayed at 1 until old enough for 4, but I think the moves were reasonable with the info I had at the time.

I haven’t been pissy at all.

@Sprogonthetyne - it’s hard. It’s not actually my child. I moved mine once and had comments about what an awful thing I’d done and it got me thinking my friends DD moved four times and is fine, really honestly absolutely fine!

Be honest - how has this affected the child? I know my DS wouldn't have coped with this at all. My DD would have coped better.

As I’ve said, she’s absolutely fine. Happy, outgoing and confident