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U.K. Eurovision entry! A lot of pearl clutching

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Colourofspring · 11/05/2024 08:27

The outrage and comments I have seen about Olly Alexander’s performance is baffling to be honest. So much pearl clutching! Eurovision has always been completely camp and outrageous and yet suddenly he has been portrayed as some kind of disgrace and not representative of the UKs ‘values’ (what the fuck does that mean anyway?)

I like the song, I have seen him perform live at Glastonbury with years and years, he’s good live. Yes he’s openly gay - so what? Surely UK values should be based around tolerance and acceptance and not hysteria because his performance is considered risqué. Would it be considered the same if it was a load of half naked female dancers?

I am heterosexual but not offended by it - it’s just a performance - I hope he wins as he’s a nice guy!

So much pearl clutching!

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alittleprivacy · 11/05/2024 09:15

julili · 11/05/2024 09:02

So long as Israel don’t win I couldn’t care less

After the second semi-final Israel is actually one of the favourites. They appear to be polling extremely highly with the public. Possibly as a reaction to knowing the quite young woman is being pretty viciously bullied. (I'm not a fan of Golan and don't like much of what I've read that she's said. But the way she's being treated by the people she's surrounded by makes me very uncomfortable, tbh.)

Possibly because there is far, far more public support for Israel in Europe than most people realise. We're currently living through an era where people won't voice their feelings but will make private moves to voice them. As currently seen in actual important situations like the Irish referendums and for non-consequential things like voting in a silly song contest.

Startingagainandagain · 11/05/2024 09:17

Eurovision has always been totally camp. That's part of the fun.

A gay man should be able to express himself as he wishes. Just like heterosexual artists do.

It really is time for the UK to shake the effect of Brexit and 14 years of Tories as the past few years seem to have empowered every nasty little individual who took it as a green light to voice their homophobia, racism, xenophobia and misogyny...

This is not who we are as a nation. The UK used to have a reputation for fairness, creative innovation and tolerance and we need to go back to that.

Colourofspring · 11/05/2024 09:18

alittleprivacy · 11/05/2024 09:15

After the second semi-final Israel is actually one of the favourites. They appear to be polling extremely highly with the public. Possibly as a reaction to knowing the quite young woman is being pretty viciously bullied. (I'm not a fan of Golan and don't like much of what I've read that she's said. But the way she's being treated by the people she's surrounded by makes me very uncomfortable, tbh.)

Possibly because there is far, far more public support for Israel in Europe than most people realise. We're currently living through an era where people won't voice their feelings but will make private moves to voice them. As currently seen in actual important situations like the Irish referendums and for non-consequential things like voting in a silly song contest.

Yea, the problem is tho that if Israel do win, they will, as a country, see it as support to continue their bombing of Rafah.

I agree re the bullying of the young girl tho- it’s shit and totally wrong.

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Nicebloomers · 11/05/2024 09:19

FedUpAndTiredToday · 11/05/2024 09:01

A good point made about the difference between sexual, overtly sexual and sleazy.

For all of the above I refer you to the 2014 Polish entry- celebrating bring a milkmaid.

butelass · 11/05/2024 09:21

FedUpAndTiredToday · 11/05/2024 09:01

A good point made about the difference between sexual, overtly sexual and sleazy.

This. It's changed. The dancing and outfits being sometimes a bit skimpy or suggestive and any combination of male, female, trans, or however they identify performing is absolutely fine in my book.

However I sat down to watch the semi with my DC last night (8 -12) and some of the acts were not family friendly viewing due to how overtly sexual they were. It's just not necessary.

Something about the modern camera techniques makes it even worse. The camera was practically up one woman's ass as she bent double in a thong in a rehearsed move. The Irish one is forgettable dirge other than its attempt at a satanic porno, and the UK's just a shite song, with 'look how edgy we are in our codpieces and explicit writhing' choreography. Live cameras do not zero gravity make. It was like a media students' bad homage to virtual insanity.

I am in 2 minds about watching the final. And I have watched it since the early 90s. We might just watch on Sunday on catch up so we can fwd some of it.

VickyEadieofThigh · 11/05/2024 09:22

I saw his performance (didn't watch the show but heard some criticisms so went and had a look) and thought the song was "OK, not great", the staging was interesting, though - like a lot of Eurovision in recent years - it was a tad over-sexualised for me. His voice is all right but he's not a great singer.

The thing is, for those of us old enough to remember watching Sandie Shaw doing 'Puppet on a string' (I was 8 and always watched Eurovision with my Mum), Eurovision has changed massively. It was a very family-friendly show and the young adults wouldn't be seen dead watching it back then. And it was all about the song and not about the elaborate staging and effects that dominate the context now - each act brought a conductor, who conducted the orchestra while they sang - have a look at ABBA's entry and their conductor came in dressed as Napoleon! It's also worth looking at old clips from then and looking at the audiences - almost all middle-aged, middle-class people dressed as if for a 60s or 70s wedding.

Some time in the late 70s, it started to be cool in an ironic sort of way and that continued such that now, it's mostly the young 'uns that watch it.

I was listening whilst driving yesterday to some young presenters talking about how marvellously "inclusive" Eurovision is now. I suppose it is - but only of a small number of specific groups. Lesbians aren't very visible, nor disabled people and the age profile of entrants is decidedly un-inclusive.

VickyEadieofThigh · 11/05/2024 09:24

KimberleyClark · 11/05/2024 09:14

There were similar complaints about Cliff Richard but that was before he became religious.

Not when he did Eurovision! His two performances there (I remember them vividly, because dancing was never Cliff's forte) were very grandma-friendly.

user411966691966 · 11/05/2024 09:24

Are we talking about the staging where he's in a grotty men's toilet with several scantly dressed, writhing men? I found it off putting. I wouldn't like a woman singer writhing around with scantily dressed women in a bog either. The song is fine, but why he had to be in a toilet which looks a bit....um...sleazy. It will appeal to some.

I am obviously not the target market. I cant stand Madonna either. I liked some of her songs, but always hated the writhing in videos even years ago when I was a young lass and she was too.

Eurovision is full of the weird and wonderful and testosterone left the building years ago.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 11/05/2024 09:24

MonsteraMama · 11/05/2024 08:45

If you can't be hilariously gay and camp during Eurovision when can you? And to be fair, female artists have had troups of semi naked, oiled, buff, gyrating men dancing with them on stage for decades and no one has batted an eyelid, so if the only issue is that Olly is a bloke alongside his gyrating gentlemen then yeh it's blatant homophobia disguised as concerns for "British Values".

Exactly

ds1 calls it gay Christmas 😀

Marjoriefrobisher · 11/05/2024 09:24

alittleprivacy · 11/05/2024 08:51

Have you arrived here from 2008 or something?

  1. Eurovision hasn't always been camp, that's more of a this century thing.
  2. Almost no-one gives a shit that Olly Alexander is gay or sings about being attracted to men.
  3. The whole overtly sexual mainstream musical performances has been going on for decades. I saw it when I was a kid, I'm middle aged now. It's not daring or shocking anymore, it's extremely, extremely boring old hat.
  4. His backing dancers looked to be extremely talented dancers and apart from a few brief moments where they shone, the choreography squandered their presence.
  5. Alexander is himself a talented man, some of his Years and Years stuff are bangers. This Eurovision song is not one of them, it's dull. Instead of writing a banging song, he focused on a shit 'shocking' dance. (His co-writer also has some great stuff on his CV, Dizzy is not an example of his best work.)
  6. Alexander sang poorly in his Eurovision performances, probably due to being focused on the very complicated, but shit looking dance routine.
  7. Criticising the joyless, seedy depiction of a gay bathhouse isn't homophobia if the people criticising it would also criticise a joyless, seedy depiction of a heterosexual sex club.

I agree with all of this especially point 5. Years and years were fab. A shame he’s gone downhill, he is talented

ExtraOnions · 11/05/2024 09:25

I love Eurovision .. watch it every year … support the UK act etc

I do think that the song is weak, the routine poor, his performance at the semis was not good, and I’ve not found him a great Eurovision Contestant - Sam Ryder set the benchmark on “how to be a Eurovision Contestant”

I doubt an Israel will win … my money is currently on Switzerland (I rarely get it right)

FiveTreeHill · 11/05/2024 09:25

It's really just a man dancing with a few topless men. It's really no different to what you'd usually see female artists do. Either with half naked men or women.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 11/05/2024 09:27

Do people really believe if a child sees a gay person their sexual orientation will change?

i was told that if i talked to ds1 being gay that i would turn him gay…and that he would grow out of it, this was about 10 years ago

julili · 11/05/2024 09:28

alittleprivacy · 11/05/2024 09:15

After the second semi-final Israel is actually one of the favourites. They appear to be polling extremely highly with the public. Possibly as a reaction to knowing the quite young woman is being pretty viciously bullied. (I'm not a fan of Golan and don't like much of what I've read that she's said. But the way she's being treated by the people she's surrounded by makes me very uncomfortable, tbh.)

Possibly because there is far, far more public support for Israel in Europe than most people realise. We're currently living through an era where people won't voice their feelings but will make private moves to voice them. As currently seen in actual important situations like the Irish referendums and for non-consequential things like voting in a silly song contest.

I think you’re probably right. Don’t have an issue with people protesting against her though. If she’s shared her views…

SpringerFall · 11/05/2024 09:34

Colourofspring · 11/05/2024 08:33

Surely it’s just more representative of all sections of the population now than in the Bucks Fizz days? Gay men got prosecuted and put in prison back in the day. Isn’t a society where everyone can be themselves a bit nicer?

There is a difference in a performer who happens to be gay and lets wheel out the token camp person to see how box ticking we can be

ginasevern · 11/05/2024 09:35

VickyEadieofThigh · 11/05/2024 09:22

I saw his performance (didn't watch the show but heard some criticisms so went and had a look) and thought the song was "OK, not great", the staging was interesting, though - like a lot of Eurovision in recent years - it was a tad over-sexualised for me. His voice is all right but he's not a great singer.

The thing is, for those of us old enough to remember watching Sandie Shaw doing 'Puppet on a string' (I was 8 and always watched Eurovision with my Mum), Eurovision has changed massively. It was a very family-friendly show and the young adults wouldn't be seen dead watching it back then. And it was all about the song and not about the elaborate staging and effects that dominate the context now - each act brought a conductor, who conducted the orchestra while they sang - have a look at ABBA's entry and their conductor came in dressed as Napoleon! It's also worth looking at old clips from then and looking at the audiences - almost all middle-aged, middle-class people dressed as if for a 60s or 70s wedding.

Some time in the late 70s, it started to be cool in an ironic sort of way and that continued such that now, it's mostly the young 'uns that watch it.

I was listening whilst driving yesterday to some young presenters talking about how marvellously "inclusive" Eurovision is now. I suppose it is - but only of a small number of specific groups. Lesbians aren't very visible, nor disabled people and the age profile of entrants is decidedly un-inclusive.

I always wanted to be Sandie Shaw. Didn't happen.

NotJohnMajor · 11/05/2024 09:35

Just listened and I really like it! But what is the chorus reminding me of - possibly an 80s song - it's going to bug me now.

the80sweregreat · 11/05/2024 09:41

Cliff Richard sung in a suit I believe at Eurovision and barely moved.
He didn't have the toilet set up Olly has or any thrusting dancers. I was only about 4 back then so maybe I missed him being outrageous

alittleprivacy · 11/05/2024 09:43

Colourofspring · 11/05/2024 09:18

Yea, the problem is tho that if Israel do win, they will, as a country, see it as support to continue their bombing of Rafah.

I agree re the bullying of the young girl tho- it’s shit and totally wrong.

Some of it might be though. That's the thing. I've never been to Israel but my impression of it from their media is that it's quite a strange country in terms of how it's citizens see their place in the world and how they are seen by others. There is a lot of censorship and what looks to my eyes to be, a concerted effort of online propaganda on forums, twitter, tiktok, etc. Both into and out of Israel.

But I think that there are a lot of people all over the world, who don't actually object to what is happening in Gaza. Who do quietly agree with Israel. Who might think that it is sad that innocent people get killed but that it's a necessary type of sad. And we now live in a type of society where those views can't be aired. And while I absolutely don't agree with those views, I also know that if they can't be aired, they will fester and grow. This weeks it's votes for a boring song. But what will it be a decade from now?

Myteenhatesme · 11/05/2024 09:45

Just watched this for the first time - I am a big Eurovision fan but listen to the songs rather than watch them before the final. My verdict? The song is just rubbish...really dull and not suited to his voice at all. The video is just...too much. Not because he is gay but because it is way over the top. Simulated sex acts would not be appropriate for either sex imo. The dancers are really good and if this were toned down a bit, it could actually be impressive. Song still sucks though.

julili · 11/05/2024 09:48

alittleprivacy · 11/05/2024 09:43

Some of it might be though. That's the thing. I've never been to Israel but my impression of it from their media is that it's quite a strange country in terms of how it's citizens see their place in the world and how they are seen by others. There is a lot of censorship and what looks to my eyes to be, a concerted effort of online propaganda on forums, twitter, tiktok, etc. Both into and out of Israel.

But I think that there are a lot of people all over the world, who don't actually object to what is happening in Gaza. Who do quietly agree with Israel. Who might think that it is sad that innocent people get killed but that it's a necessary type of sad. And we now live in a type of society where those views can't be aired. And while I absolutely don't agree with those views, I also know that if they can't be aired, they will fester and grow. This weeks it's votes for a boring song. But what will it be a decade from now?

its like all the silent tories every GE but on a much more dangerous scale.

Janiie · 11/05/2024 09:51

Dennerfold · 11/05/2024 09:00

I haven’t seen his performance but I don’t think he should represent us if he doesn’t like our flag: he is 'ambivalent' about the Union Jack flag as it can feel 'divisive' and 'nationalist'

Totally agree.

Nothing wrong with silliness and camp (doesn't have to be so desperately overtly sexual though) but this bloke tries to be some kind of political commentator and makes a tit out of himself every time he opens his mouth.

ginasevern · 11/05/2024 09:59

Is anyone old enough to remember Hot Gossip in the 70's? This video is a rip off of the Starship Trouper routine - except the song was better. If anyone has never seen it, look it up on YouTube.

ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 11/05/2024 09:59

Myteenhatesme · 11/05/2024 09:45

Just watched this for the first time - I am a big Eurovision fan but listen to the songs rather than watch them before the final. My verdict? The song is just rubbish...really dull and not suited to his voice at all. The video is just...too much. Not because he is gay but because it is way over the top. Simulated sex acts would not be appropriate for either sex imo. The dancers are really good and if this were toned down a bit, it could actually be impressive. Song still sucks though.

Just waiting for the comments of "nobody likes us" once results are in and ignoring the crappiness of the song.

NotJohnMajor · 11/05/2024 10:00

NotJohnMajor · 11/05/2024 09:35

Just listened and I really like it! But what is the chorus reminding me of - possibly an 80s song - it's going to bug me now.

Got it - it's 'Wild World' by Maxi Priest.