Is this crazy?

[MrDavidLloyd]

I love where I live but it's one of the most expensive places in the country. Instead of paying mega bucks for a tiny shitty flat WIBU to move to the (cheap) countryside with partner plus get a part time room as a lodger in the city I love/have all my friends?
Reasoning being I could have 50/50 a cosy and more spacious life with the guy I love while also getting my fix of activities and friends, all for same price as a one bed?

is it compatible with work?

do you have an exit plan from either situation if it isn’t working out? You don’t want to find yourself cash poor and unable to put a deposit down on a new flat.

I think you need to have a realistic think about how often you’d actually make the effort to go and stay in the city: you may think now that you’d do so all the time, but ultimately the motivation to actually do it is likely to wane pretty quickly - particularly if you’ve got plans in your new location or if it involves travel at the last minute because that’s when friends who all live in the city have decided to go out. There also aren’t that many people looking for a weekend lodger - which presumably is when you’d mostly want to be there - nor one who regularly comes home late after nights out.

Are you riich

It sounds good, and I know people who have their main home in the countryside, but they keep a flat in town, not a rented room. If you have a tiny flat now, will you not have an even tinier place if your main home is elsewhere? Would you not want to entertain?

Also, lots of stories are coming out about people who moved to the country and are now flying back because they just couldn't stand it in the boonies.

An alternative occurs to me - could you look for a larger flat in town? I don't know where you live or what you have, but could you look for something in a somewhat less fashionable neighbourhood, with fewer services in the block, a lower floor, a more limited view - some compromise that would keep you in town but afford you a bit more space. Just wondering ...

The countryside especially the nicer areas often isn't cheap. It can be more expensive than cities even parts of London. If your budget is enough to afford a home in the countryside and part-time city lodger rent and commuting costs, would that be enough to instead swap your tiny shitty flat for a nicer one in the city you love?

With the cheaper countryside places, you might find yourself made to feel unwelcome by resentful locals. Especially if you're in the city half of the time, so less likely to be seen as someone who wants to become an involved member of the community. Look at threads on here, where people express anti 'blow in' attitudes and complain about 'incomers' pricing out locals (although I notice there's limited or no equal sympathy for priced out city locals, who are often told to just move somewhere cheaper).

I don't want to put you off and not everyone is unwelcoming (often they're just a vocal minority) and your plan might work out well for you, but it's good to consider potential downsides.

Why would moving house be unreasonable