To think I probably won’t see him again now

[Evie9922]

I was seeing a guy and I was really enjoying his company, things were getting more serious and I was really starting to like him and he said the same. He ended up going to Thailand with 4 mates travelling and he’s ended up staying there longer than initially thought. So far he’s been there 3 months and he’s still there. He hasn’t spoke to that much really and he did say he’s just going to come back when he feels like it or has had enough. Aibu to think that’s it then? He clearly can’t have been that serious about me? I’m glad he’s enjoying himself but I feel like it’s enough time for him to forget about me and not bother wanting to see me again when he’s back

I don’t think ‘that’s it’, I think it ‘never was’, OP. It doesn’t sound like you were in a relationship when he left? He has no plan to come back, he doesn’t speak to you or keep in contact with you.

When he does come back he’s going to try reach out to you to catch up and start things up again, and you’re a fool if you allow it!

Thanks. Just feeling silly now as it felt like things were progressing quite a bit until he went away. The only thing he has said to me really is that he’ll come to mine when he’s back and also help me with the house if I need any help with anything as I’ve recently moved house so he’s basically putting it out there that he still wants me to be around and wait for him but I really have no clue when that is

Well you definitely shouldn't wait for him. Get on with your life, try to meet other people. If he eventually returns and gets in touch you can see how you feel about it then. It's disappointing but it's better to just assume it wasn't meant to be and look for someone who will make you a priority.