Gambling

[Lovinglife57]

My partner of 16 years is a gambling addict we don’t live together because of this and other reasons …he promised me he would stop and I thought he had but I found a betting ticket I felt so disappointed but am I being over the top being pissed off as it’s not my money and we don’t live together but it’s a trust thing for me …what would you do

It's like any addiction. He won't stop until he wants to. You will have to decide whether your relationship is conditional on him engaging with professional help.

what would I do ? End it. Smple

Even if you didn’t live with that person ….I’m thinking the same tbh it’s about the trust he didn’t even tell me the betting slip was down the toilet it didn’t flush

Ditto

What are you hoping for OP??
Stop wasting your time, plenty more fish in the lake

It’s not your money, that’s true. But it’s your trust and that’s more important.

Relationships with gambling addicts are hard. Addictions make people behave like someone they’re not, which can make things feel shifty, but ultimately you’re still on the receiving end of the consequences, whether his decision was made due to addiction or not.

It’s a good idea to be crystal clear with yourself and your partner where your red lines are, and what you will do if they’re crossed.

And then, obviously, to enforce that consequence if needed (so make sure it’s something you CAN do…)

Good luck, however you move forward with this.

I don't think its a deal breaker unless he shows that hes not taking steps, gamblers anon etc. we all have issues, its what we do them that matters. If he doesnt do anything about it, i would end it

Thank you so much your 💯 per cent right thank you

It fact he is living to me again ? Is a deal breaker I have no trust in him

What do you wajt from life?

Why are you with him?

Holidays, comfortable retirement,nliving together... he can't offer any of that . Where do you see things in 16 years? How old will you be? Can you still love the life you want? .

Is he worth sacrificing your actual life for? Is he the protagonist and you're just a supporting character in your own life?

So much more to this and you have hit the nail on the head…..tbh I know I’m worth more I’m 57 attractive have my own home mortgage free but this guy is not easy to leave I’m 15 yrs down the line tried to leave multiple times

Says it all. Walk or run away

and dont look back

I agree. Xxx