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To think my husband is unsupportive or am I being sensitive here?

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blueberrymuffins39 · 10/05/2024 15:01

I had a meeting yesterday with my manager regarding my role and how I can advance. This is something I'm interested in and I know there is a position coming up soon that I can apply for and I'm interested in and I think I would be good at.
The meeting was very positive and much better than I had anticipated and I left it feeling positive. My husband asked me how it had gone and basically said don't let it get to your head they're never going to say you are rubbish. They're probably telling everyone else who is showing interest in the role the same thing. He interviews people as part of his role.
I know it sounds ridiculous here but I'm very upset with his comment. I understand to a degree were he is coming from as in don't just sit back now and think you have it in the bag but I also think is comment is very unsupportive.

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YouStupidPoptart · 10/05/2024 15:10

That’s really shitty of him. Your DH is supposed to be in your corner, not knocking you flat!

EmilyTjP · 10/05/2024 15:12

That’s strange! He sounds jealous.

blueberrymuffins39 · 10/05/2024 15:15

Thank you, I wasn't sure if I was overreacting but I really feel like he burst my bubble. I'm not the type of person who will go around thinking I'm great at what I do, my biggest fault is I probably doubt myself too much.

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NomNomNominativeDeterminism · 10/05/2024 15:15

DH had a meeting yesterday and came home feeling very positive about some potential opportunities. I thought, and said, great, sounds really good. I’m pleased for him. I didn’t assume that he was being spun a line or that I had to prepare him for disappointment.

If he had said, I’ve got this brilliant feedback and by the way I’m going to bet all our savings on it because I’m definitely going to get this, I would have been more cautious.

But he didn’t. Nor have you? So unless there is relevant history which changes the picture, then yeah, your husband sounds unsupportive.

Whataretalkingabout · 10/05/2024 15:27

If you were a braggart and had a huge ego and alot of illusions about your potential it might be understandable that given his role in HR he might want to bring you to reason.

However given what you have said about yourself it looks like that kind of comment is habitual of him or he feels threatened or jealous or insecure. Or all of the above?
Not nice of him at all. He's a party pooper raining on your parade, or simply an asshole. Next time don't share with him until you know.

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