To go on holiday with children and without DH?

[welliwill]

I’m a teacher so obviously have a long summer to full. Children are 3 and 1 and our usual groups aren’t on. I’m considering taking them on a holiday for a week but DH won’t have leave although he may join us for a weekend.

It sounds fine to me: does anyone think it sounds odd or strange?

Sounds totally fine to me! I go away with DS more than I go away with DH!

Usually visiting my family who live by the seaside, but we also go skiing by ourselves (DH isn’t interested). It’s lovely actually!

Why would it be odd? And why would you care if people thought it was odd? I’ve taken my children on holiday loads on my own. DH has too.

It’s not at all strange. If you’re married doesn’t mean you or children have to “go without” something because spouse is unavailable or doesn’t enjoy something.
Really he should be delighted you’re all enjoying yourselves and my guess with 2 preschoolers he will certainly enjoy himself home alone for a week!

Seems reasonable to me. I'm taking our 4 year old away over half term as DH can't get the time off work. I don't know if I'd be able to cope with two by myself but there's a good reason why I didn't have a second in the first place 😂

I think it’s fine - especially if your h doesn’t mind.

I go away with my two kids all the time whilst hubby stays at home.

It's not an issue

I go away on solo holidays while DH and DC stay at home. Who cares what people think?

Totally fine and normal.

I think if you routinely purposefully excluded DH from you rholiday plans, that would be a problem. But taking an opportunity for a small holiday when he doesn't have leave is nowhere near that.

Go, enjoy it. If he's anything like me and DH, he'll thoroughly enjoy a few days at home without everyone!

Sounds perfectly fine. Dh and I do it all the time. It's tricky for us both to get away as have pets and a farm at home that needs looking after. But that doesn't stop us getting away and enjoying a holiday. Dh took ds to Wales to visit family last year (also took dd another time before that). I'm taking ds to Spain on holiday this summer and then dh taking dd to France a few weeks later.

It means we get one on one time with them and actually in our case, taking the dc away separately means we can do age specific activities that wouldn't suit the other one. And then there is always a parent at home to sort out anything that needs doing while we're away. We get loads of time together as a family, so no one is missing out. Both my dc say some of their most memorable holidays were the ones we took individually with them.

Yes. I think he will enjoy the peace

I mean, it sounds quite horrific to me, given my memories of holidays with toddlers 😁

But no, you shouldn't let the fact that DH won't be there stop you.

Sounds perfectly fine to me. My DH can work anywhere whereas I need to be in the office sometimes - so DH has often taken the kids away whilst I've been working. I also sometimes take them away without him if it's convenient. We do have holidays together too! But it's really fine to do your own thing sometimes.

My dh would love this! I did do this regularly when my parents lived abroad and take dc away on my own a few times a year.

I've always done this. My husband is a farmer so I e always holidayed with me and the two children. I love my time with them. I'm sad he doesn't have the same memories but it's his loss. I was determined not to let them miss out because he couldn't come.
We're off to Scotland for three weeks in the summer.

I've done it several times, though I go with my parents. If you can manage the kids on your own I don't see why you shouldn't go. I'm disabled so it's a bit harder for me, but my parents enjoy having extra time with their grandkids so everyone's happy.

Totally fine!

Go, enjoy, have fun.

Sounds great

I do it almost every year in the October half term (DP can never get that time off). Mine are older but we have 3.

It's always been lots of fun and pretty laid back. We rent a cottage / go for walks / head to beach (we've had wonderful weather the past two years) and generally just laze about.

Can't say I'd have been quite as keen when they were 3 and 1 though!!

I think it’s fine even if he does!

Sounds fine to me, as long as you're happy juggling the kids on your own for a week!

The thing is @chdjdjdnfn i have them on my own either way so better on my own in a new environment?

Yes, I always found mine easier to manage on my own by the seaside rather than at home!

I’m all for the holiday but it sounds like hard work with one adult and a 1 and 3 year old. Things like swimming for example? Bit of a nightmare. Absolutely go, but maybe try and recruit your mum or another adult to come along too! Also, wine partner once kids are asleep!

Not strange at all. Husband is a teacher. He'll take the kids away, I'll join for my two weeks and then they stay on if they want. Most of my teacher friends do this.

Likewise when he is on a school trip, Easter and May half term this year, I take them somewhere. I'm not staying in the house just because he's not here!