Ask teacher keep boy away from my DD

[shoogalypeg]

I’m fully prepared to be told I’m being overly sensitive but I’m not happy with the behaviour displayed by a boy in my DD class (only in primary yr 4)

this boy was highly inappropriate with my daughter a few months ago (s*xual harassment) not happy with the way the school dealt with it but he’s not repeated that behaviour so we let it go.

Problem is he’s been calling my DD (and others in the class) “Daddy” and he’s been paired up with my DD for in class activities which I’m not happy about.

I know names are pulled out of a hat for this but I don’t want this boy interacting with my daughter AT ALL, how do I approach this with the teacher?

I would tell the teacher that given the past history, you do not want your daughter to be exposed to this boy on a 1 to 1 basis.

And that there are still ongoing issues.

Teacher here. First of all I’m sorry your DD’s teacher hasn’t thought about keeping these children apart. I would make an appointment to meet the teacher and express that you do not want DD and the boy working together .

I would tell the class teacher that your child feels uncomfortable with this and ask for them to be separated
unfortunately the word Daddy is being used by a lot of kids right now my daughter is also yr 4 and I hear mostly boys shouting it in a high pitch voice
I think it’s from a you tube character

It seems unbelievable to me that your daughter has been paired with a boy who has sexually harassed her in the past. I would not find that acceptable and would definitely ask for him to be paired with another child (preferably a boy if he's prone to harassing girls). Your poor DD.

Thanks so much for the suggestions @VestPantsandSocks &@shoogalypeg

I have a history of (as do many women) if SA in primary/high school so know this makes my hyper sensitive to this so glad I’m not being unreasonable 🙏

That’s the issue! I seriously work for kids these days as they don’t understand what they’re saying, just parroting stupid social media influencers 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ask, but don’t be surprised if nothing comes of it and the situation gets worse. Schools aren’t great right now

Yup! I hear ya, I’m getting my ducks in a row to home school in the near future as really worried 😟

Year 4? He's only 8 or 9. Not excusing his behaviour you're well within your rights to not want your daughter near him. But where did he learn that stuff someone should report this shit to social services.

If he’d acting in a sexual manner there should be a report made to the child protection lead…

I agree @Leah5678 &@Dolphinnoises that’s why I demanded a meeting with the head teacher but she was satisfied with the excuse the parents gave (he apparently picked up the behaviour from a popular tv show 🤦🏻‍♀️) looking up

kids this age shouldn’t have access to tick Tom, YouTube ect, one of my DDs friends is already on Snapchat 😔 my wee one doesn’t understand why she can’t go on these apps but the crap is still being filtered through to her from other kids

This mirrors what you said @BeCyanSloth

https://www.reddit.com/r/OutOfTheLoop/comments/10gj5f3/whats_up_with_4th5th_graders_usa_calling_their/

Argh! Sorry for the typos lol

That’s really not OPs concern, her focus is on protecting her daughter, as it should be.

Child protection is everyone’s concern. If there is an issue the parents are hardly going to flag it. It is entirely possible to strongly advocate for your own child while expressing the view there is also a potential CP issue. What an unpleasant world it would be otherwise.

You’re right - our kids are older and I get angrier and angrier about what the social media companies are allowed to get away with. Stopping their access is impossible - not least as we can’t ban YouTube completely as they are often asked to watch educational content on there as homework

I just read something in the news yesterday op about how the government is considering Banning under 13s from social media. Long over due right.
As for naunet the op has said the school aren't doing anything so reporting straight to social could be the next step if the parents don't want social knocking on their door they should teach their kid to not bother the girls and stop him looking at inappropriate content.

And that's me assuming he just picked it up from watching something inappropriate but there could be something a lot more sinister going on.