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went abroad to be with family member when of sick because bad mental health

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RubyShaker · 09/05/2024 22:53

I was off work for anxiety and have since quitted my job as the idea of going back was too much for me. I was initially off after having a breakdown and was called weekly and then tried to return to work but the stress was still the same and none of the accommodations by occy health were put in place. One day I started crying due to all the anxiety and stress at work and had to go on the sick again because the environment was too toxic for my mental health, especially after finding out people were told my personal details when being off and were talking about it. Later on, a family member convinced me to come and spend time with them as being cooped up in my house was making me even more ill and causing me serious harm. I was seeing my GP who told me that getting out the house and doing whatever would be best for my mental health would be fine. I am now worried because I have just found out in terms of the employment contract we were meant to tell our boss if we had intentions to leave the country and between whatever dates. I did not know this at the time that this was a requirement and as people were speaking about my personal details at work already in a rather crude way, I did not want the ins and outs of my life to be up for discussion anymore between anyone.Especially as going back last time people knowing about all my personal details caused me so much embarrassment that I told my manager in confidence. My right to occupational sick pay ceased before I went so I did not think it would be a problem. After finding this out now, I am scared I have done something wrong and if people were to find out if I would face serious repercussions. I do not want to be accused of lying about being ill because my mental health was indeed the worst it had been in a long time and it was not like I was going out on the piss or anything. I also did not want people making horrid comments about me either anymore than they had done. What can I do to fix this situation or have I not done anything wrong and am panicking too much?

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ButWhatAboutTheBees · 09/05/2024 22:56

You said you've quit your job so none of it matters anyway. They aren't your concern any more

AppleKatie · 09/05/2024 22:56

You’re panicking way too much.

You say you’ve already resigned? And were not receiving sick pay during that time?

Kindly, they are highly unlikely to care.

Tamigotxh · 09/05/2024 22:57

From what I can tell you have nothing to worry about not least because you’ve already left and they weren’t paying you while you were away. Realistically what could they gain by coming after an ex-employee for something like this? I’d say forget about it and focus on the future.

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