To ask why my ex gone quiet?

[Daniooo]

I feel I’m going to regret this and will get flamed here but it’s been on my mind and no one to talk about.

Me and my ex broke up nearly a year ago. It was amicable. It was sad. We both struggled with it, but communication was non existent, things seemed to drag and we were not moving forward. There was a lot of love and care for each other though.

We kept in contact on a regural(ish) term. Quick messages, a funny meme here in there…etc

Then he had a milestone birthday. We talked, he seemed sad, he did mention a couple of weeks before that he felt broken (I don’t think it’s related to our break up but don’t know for sure). We talked but then after he went quiet. Messages stopped…

I think two things could have happened : 1 he met someone 2 he is having time for himself to gather his thoughts. Either way is fine and I’m giving him the space (not contacted him at all) but I do wonder what had happened?

Its been the longest we ever went without talking.

It’s a ll a bit much to be fair. Our break up wasn’t a playbook breakup… I feel like neither of us were 100% if it was right and lots of other factors (out of our control) made an impact too.

I miss him terribly at times but also respecting whatever is going on. But my mind is just wondering all the time…

I’m going to assume from your message that there isn’t a concern over him coming to harm?

It can be hard to “move on” when you’re in regular contact with someone, it can be like a wound that is constantly being reopened so never heals.

You may be right that he’s moved on, but he may also just be taking some time for himself, when you’re in a relationship your life can revolve around another person, when you split up, you have to undo that and find who you are without them and if you’ve been together a while, that can be hard. Time heals.

Thank you for your kind message.

Yes, I’m certain that he is alive and physically OK.

I agree with you. We were together for a very long time (10+ years). It really sucks though, I miss him a lot!

But i also respect that things weren’t going well. The relationship required a lot of work and I think we were both exhausted.

I hope that he is OK. And I really want to be OK… but not quite there yet.

I just feel terribly sad about the whole situation 😞

He’s moved on. I think you need to do the same 💐

I suspect he's probably met somebody.

Yes I would think he has met somebody

It's very difficult to move on if you're in contact still. Maybe he has met someone else or thinks it's better for you both to go zero contact.