Nursery - advice pls

[SassyCrab]

My 9 month old went to nursery today and I’m really shocked. It was the second day of him starting and I got a phone call asking to pick him up around half 1 as he has a temperature, he did keep me up the night before but I thought it was down to teething. When I picked him up he was screaming (he’s usually a really happy baby) but again I thought it was just down to him being “ill”. Well when I asked when he had his last bottle, the nursery worker said “ I didn’t feed him one today as he’s had loads of food” ? What ? My babies 9 months old and hasn’t had a bottle all day because he’s had food?! So I took him home and gave him a bottle, he went asleep & woke up completely fine. This tells me he was crying because he was hungry for a bottle and they couldn’t identify that and just called me straight away to pick him up. My poor baby! I just don’t know what to do, I’ve called the nursery and told them he needs his bottles of milk priority over food! I just don’t know if I can trust them looking after him if they can’t even tell he’s hungry for his bottle & to add to that I took his temperature when I got home it was 36.5. Opinions?

It’s day 2 and they are just getting to know him and his cues, his crying could have been anything including teething, being poorly, separation anxiety (very common at that age). Of course it’s not nice to think that he was hungry but presumably he had some lunch not long before the call to you (maybe an hour or so before) so they probably didn’t immediately consider that it was hunger.

I would reiterate with them face to face that he needs a bottle mid morning and the issue should be solved. Unfortunately in a nursery your baby is one of many and things won’t run exactly as you wish. If something like this happens again then you know it isn’t the nursery for you,

What do you mean by he doesn't need the meals? If he's eating them then that's great. Milk intake is meant to slowly decrease with age.

I would definitely complain. I always used to take a thermometer when picking up a child with a temperature.

bottom line is you don’t trust them, that’s never going to work in the long run. Find a new nursery.

I’m happy if he’s eating the meals, but what I’m saying is the most important thing is the milk! Everyone parents differently but my baby loves his milk, therefore I expect him to be fed his milk at nursery at least twice which isn’t a lot! He’s the youngest in his nursery, so I feel like there treating him like the one year olds which he isn’t, he still naps 2 hours a day but there it’s only 30 mins, he eats 3 meals but he doesn’t have massive amounts which he seems to be fed at nursery and 3 milks a day (breakfast, lunch and dinner).