to ask if you found a solid relationship later in life when you thought your time had passed?

[Nhuu]

I had a lot of attention in my younger years. I didn’t realise it at the time so much but I was quite attractive and had a lot going for me. But… my self esteem was on the floor. I think this was partly why I got so much attention from men. I let a couple of good ones go. I never properly committed when I had the chance.

Here I am, single patent to a one year old and having to accept that I fucked up massively in finding the right person. All my life I had longed to build a loving relationship but it didn’t work out. I wish I had made better decisions with men. I wish I hadn’t wasted my youth. Even if I dare again in future it’s not without complication now. I feel really sad about it. Has anyone managed to fall in love and have a successful relationship later in life? If so, how? I can’t see it happening at all.

*date not dare!

I know loads of people who met The One later in life - later than you by the sound of it, getting married in their fifties and very happy.

It may be a bit harder with a young child but it can happen at any time.

I was widowed at 30 with 2dc. Tbh, it was not a good relationship and the grief etc has been complicated.

I met my now DH at 34, married at 36, had a daughter at 37. I'm now 38 and she's nine months old.

My DH was also widowed and again, his former partner was an alcoholic and things were... not great. I have a DSD too who is now 10.

So the short answer is... yes!

Hehe, classic Freudian slip😂

Yes, absolutely, there's some great men out there still. You now have the luxury of intolerance in that you just wouldn't put up with the twats. I met my dp 14yrs ago at age 37, as a very cautious sp, he's 13 yrs older than me and still treats me like the 👸 that I am😁
Good luck, have fun
There are still good men out there x

I met the love of my life at 30 , he has raised dd1 as his own , and we had two more dc.

My sister got divorced in her late 40,s and met her partner about a year later ,they have been together about 4 years now and seem very happy, her two sons are adults ,as are his two daughters, so it might have made it easier as neither has commitments, but I'm sure people with younger children do too.

I met my bloke when I was 44 and I thought decent men were like unicorns. We’ve been together 26 years now and married for 24. We’re both very lucky.

Yes, met my now husband when I was 55 years old. Second marriage, both have adult children, we are very happy.
I had decided I'd never remarry, but he changed my mind 🙂

Yes! I met my husband when I was 53. He’s an emotionally mature loveliness. I let a very, very good one go in my 40s (hindsight wonderful, but I see tremendously clearly now that my perimenopause caused me to blow up my life) and spent too long with a toxic narcissist of a man, so I am wholly appreciative of my luck to be given another shot at it all!

Yes, I have

I met the love of my life at 46 and married him when I was 50.

We had a lot of happy years until he died last year.🙂

Yes, met DH at 39 when I had been divorced from ds's dad for several years. We've been together 13 years and are very happy. By far the best relationship I've ever had (and I've had a few!)

We decided not to have any kids together as I didn't want to be dealing with primary-aged kids in my 50s, but DH has been an absolutely amazing step-dad to ds.

You've not fucked up. It can definitely still happen, if that's what you want. (But, I also have to say that those years of it being just me and ds were really special too, and I'm actually glad I didn't meet DH right away!)

If you have a one-year-old, then I assume you can't be much older than late thirties. Which doesn't really seem quite the end of life to me.
I met my partner a month before my 37th birthday. My mother met hers when she was just over 50.
How? We both did it on dating sites. Somehow prince charming doesn't just show up at one's door, despite what women are led to believe.

Thanks, perhaps not all is lost then

Hell yes. I was 42 when I met mine, five years in and we are still daft over each other.

Why wouldn't you be able to? People meet all the time at any age, why is it a barrier. You'll put up with less shit now so might take a bit longer

Of course all is not lost but you need to focus on building a life with your child and seeking happiness from other experiences. Important that you don't associate happiness with finding a man.
Do you have a relationship of any sort with your child's father?
Take care OP, one step at a time