AIBU to be hurt at no invitation

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I have been close friends with 2 other women for many years. We share a hobby and used to do this together a lot as a tight knit group of 3. With kids and work responsibilities etc we have done far less of this in recent years. I have more access to childcare and am able to indulge in hobby fairly frequently. When I do I almost always invite one friend in particular, and have made lots of effort in this, including driving her door to door and getting her tickets etc, the other friend less so due to location.

I recently spoke to both friends separately and we chatted around various topics at length- I did mention during both conversations that I was rather short of money due to a recent expense. Two weeks after this I saw pictures on social media of the two of them on holiday at a choice location for the hobby, somewhere we had previously spoken about going together.

AIBU to be hurt at not being invited? I realise I had mentioned being broke to them a couple of weeks previously, but I am sure this would have been arranged before these conversations, and I think it was deliberately not mentioned. Had I been invited I would have easily been able to afford it and would have definitely accepted.

I realise they were under no obligation to invite me, but feel I have been deliberately excluded although I don’t know why and there has been no fall out etc.

AIBU to feel excluded and return the favour with no further invites or offers of lifts coming from my direction?

Life sometimes does involve being excluded, and whilst it doesn’t feel very nice, it’s ultimately something we all do. I have lots of good friends, including some who I like very much to socialise with, or go to dinner or the theatre with; but who I absolutely wouldn’t want to spend a week with on a holiday. The solution is just to keep arrangements quiet and not make a big thing of rubbing it in the uninvited friends’ faces - not go on holiday with people I don’t want to holiday with or not holiday with any friends at all.

I'm sure it was just happenstance. It's happened several times within my hobby-friend group (niche hobby, lots of holidays) over the last forty years, and we still all like each other and get along.

It happened to me, more a couples thing, so it happened to us, they were upfront and told us they had booked it. One one hand I felt they didn’t need to invite us, on the other I was a little perturbed that this time we weren’t invited. We think it was cost related, as they could share rooms and transport, where as with more of us, the cost would have went up a lot.

works out it wasn’t very successful, with lots of issues arising, and one nearly backing out the week before due to it.

in hindsight our feelings are it was a bit cunty really, but we are glad we didn’t go so haven’t let it bother us or the friendship. But yeah, a bit cunty is the way we’d describe it.

Haha you have summed it up very well!

Ye you can't leave one friend out when you're doing stuff and then get annoyed they do the same. There's also no proof it was booked before you mentioned being skint. Maybe they got offered last minute tickets by someone who dropped out or a special deal or won tickets and it was only for 2.