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AIBU?

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To reverse onto my drive at a normal speed?

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skeettch · 08/05/2024 21:53

Lived next door to my neighbours for 15 years. Good relationship, I value it. We can ask each other favours and it's nice and reciprocal. They are probably mid 60s, us mid 40s.

They got a cat a couple of years ago and are very attached to it. I LIKE their cat. I like animals generally and have loads of my own, we have shared neighbourly pet visiting exchanges where they look after some of my small animals while I'm away and I feed their cat.

Anyhow....recently a couple of times my neighbours have made comments about the 'speed' within which I come into the drive and how they 'nearly fell off their ladder' and comments about how I need to check in case there are branches on the drive from where they have trimmed their tree.

Which made no sense to me because: we live in a cul de sac on a bend, I have an offset drive with a lamppost on one side and I reverse park into it carefully so as not to hit the lamppost on one side or the wheelie bins stacked at the back of the drive.

Believe me I am not speeding into my drive. Just navigating it at the same speed anybody does when reverse parking.

My neighbours don't know how to reverse park, fine, not my business.

Anyway - they have recently come round and asked me to kill my speed when I come into my drive.

My AIBU is - how can I 'kill' it further? I have a rear view camera, drive as per the (tricky) parking conditions. I like their cat, I don't want to drive over it, but if it's on my drive below my camera do they expect me to get out and check for it?

Can any cat owners advise? I like animals and don't want to hurt one but I'm reversing at like 1 mile per hour onto my own driveway, what more can I do other than physically push the car onto the drive?

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Maaate · 08/05/2024 22:02

Cats are very good at getting out of the way, I wouldn't worry about it

ghostyslovesheets · 08/05/2024 22:04

Maaate · 08/05/2024 22:02

Cats are very good at getting out of the way, I wouldn't worry about it

They can be - but I ran over my cat reversing off my drive - after a £400 knee op and 4 weeks in doors - he ran under the car.

But is doesn;t sound like you are going fast op (mind you neither was I)

skeettch · 08/05/2024 22:08

Thanks, and I do get it. I won't move the car if my dog it out the front, it terrifies me and she's really well trained.

I do get the worry, But also - and please don't flame me for this - is this not just part of the anxiety of having roaming cats? That you cannot control what they might encounter when they walk the streets?

My kids have asked me over and again if we can have a cat and I know myself, from how I am as a pet owner, that I could not tolerate the anxiety of having a pet that roams alone.

So, whilst I do feel their worry I feel a bit annoyed at their policing of my behaviour when I'm rushing indoors to meet the needs of my own pets? IDK, I don't ask them to leave a gap in their fence so my dog can have a roam about unsupervised?

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