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Not to send my child to reception year?

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IzzyPopp · 08/05/2024 16:39

It is not compulsory in this country to start primary school until 5 year old (I find even that is early) but children even start at the age of 4 in reception.

How important is the reception and what is taught, given it is not compulsory to start until the child turns 5.

And then once the child turns 5 they must start the term after their fifth birthday, not in the following September after they turned 5, which is the beginning of school year. What is taught in that year given it is ok for the child to miss the beginning of that school year?

Do people in general send their kids to reception at 4 or do they wait till 5? Or does it vary quite a bit?

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 09/05/2024 09:08

Comedycook · 08/05/2024 16:57

Reception is as others have said play based. I really don't know why you would want to skip it out.

This.

Needmorelego · 09/05/2024 09:18

@IzzyPopp the issue with the government having the "term after they turn 5" as the starting age (so technically a child could start halfway through the academic year) is it's outdated now as almost all schools only do September intake.
It's an old hangover from years ago.
It's rare for it to happen now.

Peachyeyes · 09/05/2024 09:33

Keep in mind that the admissions authority (this could be the LA or a individual school depending on type of school) might not be willing to agree to deferred entry and hold a place for a child starting later. So that could be an issue if your preferred school is full and oversubscribed.

SnacksToTheMax · 09/05/2024 09:55

My eldest was born in the last week of August, and was only just 4 when she started - we thought long and hard over whether to delay. We decided to start her with everyone else in September of her ‘proper’ Reception year instead of skipping it and going into year 1 a year later - I’m happy we did. It was mostly play-based and she loved it. The days were shorter than her nursery days, so although we went from 4 days at nursery to full time at school she coped fine.

I think she would have had a harder time trying to catch up on the phonics and maths covered in the reception year if she had skipped it and started in Year 1 - I wouldn’t have wanted that affecting her confidence given she’s already the youngest, so playing catch-up developmentally vs some of the older ones. It’s such a tough one though - she did seem very tiny when she started.

In some areas you can delay starting by a year for summer borns, and go into reception a year later (rather than skipping) but it’s definitely not a given.

Hillarious · 09/05/2024 10:12

Age is an irrelevance. My daughter started in September after she was 4 in May, and my son in September after he was 4 the previous November. She settled much more quickly. He had a lot of energy to burn off every day, and it was real effort for him to "keep it all in". They'd both done a year of half days at a state nursery, so the first of the two years of the Foundation stage. All play-led. Children learn a lot through play.

Grasshopper7 · 09/05/2024 10:54

@Hillarious
Age is not an irrelevance. There have been multiple studies which have proven that summerborn children do worse not just at school but throughout their lives .

Hillarious · 09/05/2024 10:57

Grasshopper7 · 09/05/2024 10:54

@Hillarious
Age is not an irrelevance. There have been multiple studies which have proven that summerborn children do worse not just at school but throughout their lives .

Thanks, @Grasshopper7. As an August baby, I'll take your comments on board.

aweebitlost · 09/05/2024 14:16

Of course age isn’t an irrelevance. Just because you or your kid were fine doesn’t discount the studies which look at the broader data.

Notquitefinishe · 09/05/2024 18:03

IzzyPopp · 09/05/2024 09:04

I shall be sending my firstborn to reception in the September same year she turns 4 now I understand better how it all works.

My second is born in December so will be naturally a bit older anyway.

What I couldn’t understand is how can a child be able to join somewhere throughout the year based on the government website. Such as my DC born in March could join the reception for the last term only after they turned 5 and then off to year 1 in September of the same year. If it leaves the children behind why are they able to miss. Having said that I understand from the comments that schools don’t really like doing it.

I also find myself guilty of jumping on the few less positive experiences some people mentioned here, purely because of my negative view of such an early start in school….

And completely hear the point people raised about the DC being quite a lot older in comparison to their peers later down the road….

You're right that it's ridiculous but as a pp said, it's a hangover from the past. I imagine 95%+ join in September in their correct school year so it's not been a priority to change.

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