To want to pick up my DD from nursery in peace?

[milliec]

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you have to alert the nursery - don't need to say why but it is work related

you should also speak to your employers and see how they recommend you deal with her

personally i wouldn't engage with her in any way, hard as that might be

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If you feel threatened or in anyway unsafe then I would'nt think you're BU.
Maybe the nursery could try and stagger you're collection times? good luck

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millie - it sounds horrid and intimidating

I would definitely speak to your employers and see what they suggest

is there any chance your DP/DH/anyone else could pick your DD up for a few days?

it is stressful enough that you have been through a work related dipute with her, but this really constitutes harrasment and stalking. she has purposefully sought you out at a private place with intent of pursuing her greviance

does she have a line manager you can report to

do you have a line manager to support you

document this with date and time

is she regulated by a professional body consider reporting her, does this followinng and harrasment constitute professional misconduct

report to nursery that she is harrassing you

dreadful to go through this

milliec does this person have a child at the nursery? If not then she should not be waiting on the premises for anybody wether they own/run the nursery or not. Only people with a legitimate reason should be on the premises and they certainly should not be permitted to wait in the reception area for anywhere near 40 mins. You could theoretically raise it as a child protection issue.

Agree with mummyhill.

Don't know how your nursery operates, but at any nursery I have come across, only parents, children attending the nursery and people working at the nursery were allowed through the front door.

How is she getting in, how does she know that your daughter goes to the nursery. It sounds to me as though the nursery is on very shaky ground legally. It won't stop the woman harassing you elsewhere - but you must talk to the nursery owner.

A few question marks missing from last post...

is she collecting HER child from the nursery? That isn't clear.

You need to talk to the nursey, tell them what has happened and that you consider it to be harassment.

I don't think I'd want a loon like this in the building where my kids were in nursery.

Ds is at a surestart nursery and unless you are registered as being on a childs contact list for collection or drop off or work there you do not get in the front door. Any workmen are grilled and then let in but kept well away from the children, once their job is done they are escorted off the premises.

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Good luck talking to the Nursery.

Regardless as to the friendship angle she should only be on the premises long enough to drop off/collect her own child and should not be harassing you.