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I found a personal trainer/coach for a gym close to me, but after a consultation I find him really attractive and don’t think we’d be a good match. I’m conscious of how I look vs just turning up as I am sort of thing and think I’d focus more on the right things with someone else. In the meantime, he’s messaged me a few times in a couple of days asking when I’m booking in, giving a list of times/dates/prices etc. Aibu to just find/ask for another coach? I don’t really know how to explain that

Dont understand some of your post but if you don't want to use him either tell him or just block his number. Simple

Well, you don't have to respond, or you can, it's ok either way. Personally I wouldn't tell him I was attracted to him, I'd just say "thatnks for the consultation but I won't be taking it further".

I’d say, ‘lovely to meet you, I’ve decided to go a different route but thanks for your time’. It’s horrible to be professionally ghosted. Absolutely no need to mention you fancy him. Reverse the roles and it’s ick.

Say you’ve sprained your ankle so will be out of action for a while 😬

Well, if he works at the gym, isn’t he likely to be there when you go anyway, even if you are booked in with a different coach? Or are you saying you want to attend a different gym altogether in case Mr Sexy catches sight of you all sweaty?

I had a really attractive PT, it was distracting 😂
however dh used him aswell (at different times to me) and always commented on how good looking he was and we both used to laugh because I would say I hadn’t noticed!
I used to have my sessions with him directly after a class so I always turned up red faced and a sweaty mess, I was paying a lot of money for his services and he was very good at his job and got me the results I was looking for.
If you don’t think you can handle his attractiveness just respond and say you’re going to go in a different direction but thank him for his time - then find someone else.
It doesn’t matter if he sees you with someone else, it’s business really. He just wants your money, he’ll get the money from someone else instead and you’ll be focussed on your workout.

Exactly as @BananaPeanutToast says.
It works both ways too - my son is a PT and had a consultation with a client. The whole vibe was off he said and afterwards another PT at the gym said she was quite obsessive with her trainers and over personal - he decided to tell her he felt she might need someone who better matched her needs.
Lee it simple and professional- PTs are used to it not always working out.

I mean you're free to ghost him if you'd prefer, other wise you have two options:

If you can go with a PT at another gym, just tell him that you've chosen another gym that you think suits you better.

If you need to go to that gym then thank him and tell him it's a big step for you and you'd like to try a couple of trainers to make sure you get the best fit so it doesn't seem like you're just saying he's crap and you want another trainer. I don't know what PT etiquette is like, is it ok to do a consultation with multiple PT's?

I'm looking into a PT to boost my weight loss and I keep looking at women because I keep trying to figure out whether I fancy the guys 🤣. I'm a man so I feel extra awkward in case it becomes obvious I fancy them. I know it's kind of immature but we're only human!